Boyfriend or Body dysmorphia

So I'm new here, but I felt that I needed to get some help from people who may have been where I am or know people who have.
I have body dysmorphia, which has lead to unhealthy coping, but I am feeling like I am losing my relationship because of it.
I have been with my bf for a year now. We have been through ups and downs which have mostly, all the big problems, have been because of him. No cheating or anything like that.
I had a mental break down in about April, which is when my body dysmophia was at an all time high. I feel like he doesn't really care, doesn't really listen, and when we fight, he'll use it to throw in my face- calls it "your issues" or "insecurities" or "you have problems".
I can't help them though. I am constantly feeling like he doesn't give me enough attention, that we don't have sex that much, and that he doesn't find me attractive. He goes to bed most of the time with out wanting to have sex or anything physical. I went through his history last night, and he watches porn a lot of the days, and I found it hurtful that he does that, but I feel the way I do and he doesn't make an effort to change my mind.
I'm struggling if its just me getting the best of me, or if he is neglecting that I have a serious issue and need him to do things that maybe are out of his way, but to help me.

Can someone help me?

Ps- sorry if this isn't the right place to be posting this. I'm new and all

hi zombiecupcake
unfortunately you are looking to him to give you what you need to be giving yourself. you need to feel secure in yourself not constantly seek that affirmation from outside sources. welcome to psych central. you will find that we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome

Dump him.

Since you are here posting about this, that tells me you're serious about solving your problem with dysmorphia and he's not doing anything to even try to understand or help you.

Sorry if I'm a little blunt, it's just that, well, sometimes, I can get a little too blunt.

One can live having their own mental health disorders, and simultaneously have a semblance of functionality in relationships.
It's not up to him, too sooth your internal struggles, at the same time, sensitivity to your struggles whilst maintaining his own core person needs to be possible.
Pornography can be a heated topic of debate, most everywhere, so I am not going to personally find myself concerned that he is watching this, not in front of you, and that you have body dysmorphia. Imo, both aspects can be compromised.
Going through his history, isn't going to resolve anything, breaches courtesy of privacy.
What needs to be addressed is inattentiveness in the bedroom.
Has he built up resentment towards you? Hence a withholding of craved and humanly needed intimacy? The act of sex, won't breed closeness. Some resent it, as a tool to give a false sense of closeness, in a fight and make up cycle.
There's a plethora of things that could be going on here.

Guess, to me, porn is a self gratification tool for many. So, why is he choosing self gratification over mutually consensual intimate relations with the woman he professes to love and cherish?

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