[3xjj]

My boyfriend ended our relationship because he couldn't deal with the stress/feelings/ups and downs. He seemed to be very much in love with me right up until the end when he just pulled away. Is it possible to leave someone you are truly in love with because of your own fears or other issues? Has anyone done this? I'm still deeply confused and depressed over this.

[glok]

Hello, 3xjj. Your previous posts about this person are telling. Do you know if he has sought professional help for the issues you describe? You view yourself has different from others he has had relationships with. If he has not faced his issues and sees no reason to change, who you are is not the primary issue that needs to be dealt with.

You are grieving. Perhaps, you might benefit from seeing a professional to help you through the process?

[3xjj]

I am going to therapy several times a week. I am trying, but I can't get unstuck.
He has not sought professional help. He doesn't see himself as really having any issues.
He hasn't had any other romantic relationships. His alcoholic ex-wife is the only woman he has been in a relationship with. He started going out with her in high school or so. If you read my other posts, you may remember he said he was never in love with her. He just kind of fell into a relationship with her and married her because it was the thing to do. With me, he was at the very least, infatuated. He told me I was his world several times. I can't believe he would just really leave and abandon me after all the amazing times we had. He won't talk to me now at all, and after several months, I still can't believe this is happening. I just can't make sense of it. Thank you for your reply.

[Coolerchic007]

Dear3xjj
Yes,it's absolutely possible to walk away after professing to love someone...I say "professing" because if someone truly loved the other then he/she would know the impact of such an action and would not do something so cruel without a second thought. My ex, with whom I was in a relationship for three years, suddenly broke contact not too long...six months ago...how I suffered, how I hurt...but in the end I knows I have to move on...he was thriving (I got to know through others) and everyday I was going deeper into misery...I am still in pain, but at least I have accepted that I was with a very emotionally unstable person & though it might not feel like it at the moment...this is for the best. I still cry at the good memories but I try to quickly shift my focus to the trauma of a relationship with someone who could be very mean. The issue is you here. Surely this is not what you want for yourself? I think the only person who can sort out his issues is him. Let go. I know how difficult that is...I keep letting go and holding on every other moment! I truly understand and anytime you feel like it you can send me a PM