[FatPenguin]

How did it end up like this?

33 years old, nothing to show for. Nothing. The only thing is I don't have to work because I have some passive income I make online.

That's it.

In the dating world, it's just impossible to find that right combination -- a person who is super-introverted, but fiercely seeking a relationship as well. A one-on-one type.

So far... it's just be a nightmare of ****.

Disappointment after disappointment, over and over and over. I can't find the right girl.

And I thought I did, and she destroyed all my hope. All hope. She took everything from me. Sucked it into her black hole. Ok, that's dramatic, but it hurt like hell. Because she was perfect -- there was just one thing missing: she didn't care. She doesn't care.

[~Christina]

She wasn't perfect for you... That doesnt mean the perfect one isn't just around the corner... Mourn the loss of this girl that was in your life and file it away then look towards the future and what may pop up then .

Originally Posted by ~Christina

She wasn't perfect for you... That doesnt mean the perfect one isn't just around the corner... Mourn the loss of this girl that was in your life and file it away then look towards the future and what may pop up then .

While I agree that she wasnt' perfect for him, the fact is perfect does not exist. As long as one expects or searches for perfection in another person whether the "perfect match" or in personallity, they are chasing after the wind.

You just need to find someone that you're willing to commit to while accepting every single one you meet will be full of flaws. We all have them and we just need to choose the person to be with and accept those things. As soon as you do that you'll find your mate.

[Maria38Divine]

FatPenguin, we're in the same boat. If it's one thing I've learned about dating, it's that some of us have to go through the deep, deep forest of heartache, heartbreak and disappointment before we find our match. I had an experience years ago where someone I truly cared for ended it suddenly because he decided I wasn't his type (this was after he expressed much interest in marrying and having children with me). BUT, I'm over that. These days we're friends. There are still qualities I admire in him, but I don't feel a smidgen of affection for him anymore. I have closure.

Give yourself time to recover and while you do, identify the qualities you found in her that you would like to see in a new partner, and identify the qualities you didn't particularly care for and may be deal breakers in a future relationship. I think that exercise will be beneficial in your new search.

[FatPenguin]

Originally Posted by Maria38Divine

FatPenguin, we're in the same boat. If it's one thing I've learned about dating, it's that some of us have to go through the deep, deep forest of heartache, heartbreak and disappointment before we find our match. I had an experience years ago where someone I truly cared for ended it suddenly because he decided I wasn't his type (this was after he expressed much interest in marrying and having children with me). BUT, I'm over that. These days we're friends. There are still qualities I admire in him, but I don't feel a smidgen of affection for him anymore. I have closure.

Give yourself time to recover and while you do, identify the qualities you found in her that you would like to see in a new partner, and identify the qualities you didn't particularly care for and may be deal breakers in a future relationship. I think that exercise will be beneficial in your new search.

Thank you, wise thoughts.

[asheepywolf]

Don't give up hope penguin. And like some other here have said, there is no such thing as perfect, only an idea you have created in your mind. While in my opinion is healthy to have high standards for the person you want to be with, you also need to keep in mind that unfortunately we live here on planet earth, and not some fairy tale movie. Before you even start to seek that person you want, prepare your mind and heart for their flaws and lackings. There is going to be someone out there who is going to do the same for you, AND YOU WILL BE HAPPY. You deserve it just as much as anyone else, don't give up hope and don't despair. Better yourself everyday and go after whatever you want and you'll be happy regardless if you're in a relationship. I know it's hard being alone, believe me I know, but you're never alone. We're here for you, and that counts for something. Be strong, your love is coming to you :-)

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