[RobG]

Yes, I am that naive.
I know i know there can be many reasons to end and its up to you at the end of the day etc etc.. but .. im kind of an overthinker.
Yes i have thought if I should break up, but that doesnt mean i should, does it? Of course not.. but okay being honest; my main reason would be other women. I think if i was really in love i wouldnt want to do the sex with others, but i have to admit that i do, but i dont want to cheat either.
But thers nothings really wrong with our relationship otherwise, and shes a fantastic lovely girl, and i do not want to her to leave my life.
But do i see us staying together forever? Not really, no, i dont really think so to be honest, i think alot has changed since we first met and alot of the passion/excitement isint really there anymore.

I dont really say i love you much anymore, they words used to express something that felt core to me, now it just feels expected of me and its lost its meaning.

So I dont know what more there is to say, just thought id put this here, give my mind some rest. I'll do nothing anyways, for the time being.

[kaliope]

so if you know it isn't going anywhere in the long term and I love you doesn't mean anything anymore then you really are just dragging it out to die later. this really isn't fair to either of you. the longer a relationship goes on the more expectations there are for marriage and a future together. if you know that isn't going to happen then you should do something about it now. perhaps you could part as friends and still have her in your life.

[gma45]

Sounds to me like you have kinda got into a rut with this relationship. Maybe instead of breaking up you might try to spice it up. But then again if you don't see yourself with this person for the long haul maybe it's time so you both can get on with your lives. What ever you decide be up front she deserves that.

[waiting4]

Yeah I would suggest spicing it up as well, but you seem so.....blase' about it... I mean, long term relationships are not always about the thrill and the passion...once you're together for a few years, yes, there IS passion but it's not always the every-day-I'm-so-thrilled-you're-in-my-life-how-did-I-get-so-lucky kind. And it sounds from what you've posted, rather than becoming a lovely, comforting, mutually supportive and loving relationship...to you it's just a drag. Literally.

So, y'know....don't. Drag it out. Just be honest with yourself and if necessary, let her go so she can find a man she has the chance of meeting...someone who wants the same things as she does (including a long term, long lasting relationship if that's what she wants, or short term fun relationships, again, if that's what she wants) but end run...give her a choice. It's not fair to her, or to you, as was stated already, to just ....do nothing.

She won't thank you for it, when you do eventually tell her it's over. Oh, and don't make the mistake of hanging around until you meet the 'next great thing'. That's a 'safety move' and a cr*p bf move.

Take care