[hartbroken]

I've been in a relationship for about 5 years. Slowly, I've been getting more depressed, and I don't know if it's because my relationship with my girlfriend is bumming me out, or if the depression from having schizoaffective is affecting the relationship?

I love her, but I need more room to think on my own. I feel like when I'm with her for too long I don't have the adequate time to think on my own about life. I just wonder if I'm meant to be single. It's sad, because we're both attached to each other in other ways. I don't know where to begin.

[MyselfAndIAlone]

Originally Posted by hartbroken

I've been in a relationship for about 5 years. Slowly, I've been getting more depressed, and I don't know if it's because my relationship with my girlfriend is bumming me out, or if the depression from having schizoaffective is affecting the relationship?

I love her, but I need more room to think on my own. I feel like when I'm with her for too long I don't have the adequate time to think on my own about life. I just wonder if I'm meant to be single. It's sad, because we're both attached to each other in other ways. I don't know where to begin.

Hey - I'm sorry you're going through this difficult time. I'm not sure I have anything truly wonderful to offer here other than a cyber hug as I'm going through a similar issue with my other half.

It's incredibly difficult to separate the two and we've discussed spending some time apart so I have the space I need. Thing is, for me, I just want to run. And not stop. I'm not sure what from/to but space is absolutely needed for me, to look after self and understand my own needs before I can communicate that into if the relationship is the cause or the savior.

[Maria38Divine]

Maybe it's both. For me, stress worsens my depression and my depression also affects how much time I'm able to spend with others before becoming agitated.

[hvert]

Is it possible that you just need more alone time?