Being too nosy and arrogant

A few days ago I went to visit my college just to hang out since I'm not living their until I move back in the fall. Well someone who I am not really friends with promised to sell me a book she had for 40 dollars. She promised twice and broke it twice, not suprised since she is flaky and arrogant. Well she hung around me which I felt annoyed about since I thought she wasn't going to be there long and due to the fact that it is summer and I'm not a resident, I couldn't go into any of the residence halls and there was no one else there to hang with so avoiding her was out the window, and I kind of put myself in that situation since I believed her because she sold me a book once before last year so that's why I thought she would do it again but apparently not. But anyway, she talked crap about others the whole time like usual, no difference. In fact, I feel like she is even worse now but that could have just been me since I haven't seen her in so long so I'm not sure if she is actually worse or not. I'll find out in the fall. She judges people, like she thinks one guy is gay because of the types of music he likes. She also was very rude to someone on facebook because that person posted a status saying he was stressed out and felt worthless and needed help. She chewed him out publically on facebook and told him to suck it up and stop acting childish, meanwhile look at what she does. She does the same thing. Then this is another thing she has never done, which is looking at my texts while I was using the restroom. It was my fault that I did not have a password since my phone is new and still didn't know exactly how to put a password on, although now I currently have one, got it yesterday. But yeah, she looked through my texts, which is a total invasion of privacy and irritated me. She saw someone who had texted me talking about his work and she started talking about how arrogant and stuck up he was, like, she doesn't even realize what she is doing. At least I don't think she does, it is almost like she thinks it is okay for her to do what she does but not okay for others to do the same. Eventually she left and I was so relieved and was able to spend the last three hours alone and not have to worry about her. It irritates me when people do that, at least now I know I can't trust her anymore like I thought I could or used to. She has the sense of entitlement and milks her own problems when she sees other people actually struggling. Needs to stop, I'm getting very close, like, very close to chewing her out myself. The only thing that is keeping me is that I'm worried she will talk bad about me or I will be seen as rude if I put her in her place. Although I do think it is likely she already does talk bad about me, I just don't know it. So yeah, in a way, this was partially my fault since I didn't have a password yet but now I do and also have decided that the next time she offers me to buy a book off of her, I will not do it even for a cheap price since I was going to pay her 40 dollars, the original price from the bookstore is like 129 dollars. I feel like she set me up in a way, I could be wrong, but I just feel that way.

BPHS2010, Once bitten, twice shy. I would limit my contact with her. She sounds like she has her own issues that she is not dealing with. Her problems are not yours. Be polite and keep it short. Trust your instincts.

She seems to thrive off drama so dont give her any .. take the high road and just keep busy with your actual friends. No point wasting your time on/with a person like her.

Good luck

You will run into people like her once in a while. She sounds like a poster girl for "toxic people you need to avoid". I agree that you probably want to limit your contact with her.

I think it's great that you realize she is difficult to be around and recognize her issues are not a reflection on you.

Wow, reading someone else's text messages while they are in the bathroom is pretty low! It's okay to tell people off for doing stuff like that. I hope you don't run into her again, but you would be entirely justified in snubbing her if you did.

Yep. She has a sense of entitlement and believes she can do stuff like that. She definitely has problems.