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Jul 14, 2014, 08:27 AM
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Hey,
I'm not sure how to write this but here it goes. I have been with my boyfriend for almost three years now and he is the only man I've ever been with. Apart from our relationship I have no experience of being with someone or dating or flirting much. We have talked about it together as we are very open with each other and it bothers him as much as it bothers me, as I sometimes imagine what it would be like if I was with someone else. Lately we made some new friends together and my boyfriend asked me if i found any of them attractive to which I said yes. This discussion was more of a "joke" than anything but lately it's been messing with my head. One of our friends is quite an attractive, manly guy (my boyfriend is more soft-spoken and "in touch with his feminine side" if I can say that) and I've started having feelings for him. It was very stupid, girlish thing at first and I managed to block them out. But the more time we all spend together, the more I start noticing stuff like: This guy started liking most of the stuff I post on my Facebook while the other friends we made do not do that. He also likes filming us  . He says he does it for the "fun". But isn't that weird, just filming my boyfriend and I and no one else? Am I just over noticing stuff, or is he giving me signals?? This is messing with my mind so much as I love my boyfriend but don't know how to stop thinking about our friend in a sexual way. |
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#2
Jul 14, 2014, 09:00 AM
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i think you are running toward a cliff.
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#3
Jul 14, 2014, 10:34 AM
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If you are interested in ruining your relationship with your boyfriend, then pursue the friend.
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| Trippin2.0, waiting4
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#4
Jul 14, 2014, 11:26 AM
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Questioning if the friend is 'giving signals' sounds more hopeful to me than concerned. If you really have to be with another man, because you have 'only' been with your bf, then break up with your bf and persue the other friend.
Keep in mind, the grass is only greener on the other side of the fence because usually, a liberal amount of shyt has been applied, and if you wander in that field you'll soon find yourself covered in it. Then when you glance back from whense you came, you may realize the arrival was not worth the trip. Take care...
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Jul 14, 2014, 04:20 PM
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Playing with fire usually causes long term burns
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| Trippin2.0, trying2survive
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#6
Jul 14, 2014, 04:32 PM
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If you have only ever been with your bf then it would be hard to tell if you have genuine feelings for him or if you are just curious about what it would be like to be with another type of man.
As for the signals - We only notice signals when we want to. It is easy to read into anything but you have to understand that you are only noticing because you want them to be signals. If you weren't interested then you wouldn't notice. Personally I don't believe that anyone can be 100% satisfied with one person. We always are attracted to other people and curious about what it would be like. The real trick is sorting the urges from the real feelings. |
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#7
Jul 14, 2014, 08:24 PM
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you guys need to stop having this guy come around and put a stop to this before it turns into something irreparable. 1. not only will it ruin their friendship 2. it will ruin your relationship 3. you just may turn these guys into enemies 4. any hope of you being with your bf will be all but lost PUT THESE THOUGHTS BEHIND YOU AND OUT OF YOUR HEAD TROUBLE BIG BIG TROUBLE.
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| i dont matter, waiting4
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