There is a club I am in that I feel like I am treated unfairly in. The sponsor and some of the upperclassmen would get on my case over the smallest things or I would get yelled at for no reason at all. For example, once we were at a fast food place, I think burger king or something, and we were there to have a little meeting, just off campus, and we decided to order something. The sponsor said that she would gladly pay for drinks but nothing more than that, we could order whatever we wanted but we would have to pay ourselves, which is fine. So I decided to order a burger and a pepsi which was around five dollars together. When she saw that I was getting that, she came up to me and asked if I was really about to order that, and I said yes and was about to pay myself for the burger when she kind of flipped out and said no and that she will pay for it all. Don't understand why that happened, I thought it was agreed that we could get what we want and I kind of felt like she was babying me since she snatched my wallet out of my hand and put my debit card back in it and said she was paying. I was really confused and don't understand why she did that. I felt bad but at the same time confused and annoyed. There are other times if she was not feeling well or in a bad mood, she would get snappy at me, but only at me, she didn't do any of this to any of the other group members. Another time, she snapped at me because a couple people asked me if I needed help dumping a small amount of unwanted left over popcorn into the trash and I said nope I got it and said thanks and she came over and said that I shouldn't be rejecting help and that it is not smart and that I should let the two people who asked me to let them do it, so I did. Later on that night she told me the next time someone asks me to help them, let them, don't reject them. The thing that drove me crazy is that I didn't need any help, it wasn't too big or too heavy, and the garbage can was right next to the table it was on so I really didn't even have to move it that much. If I needed help, I would have said yes which I do at times if I truly need it. I felt like that was unnecessary. And another time one of the upperclassmen who was a group leader at the time told me to stop posting funny memes on facebook since it demostrates poor leadership skills, not sure if that is really true or not but I see nothing wrong with posting funny facebook memes, as long as it doesn't contain vulgar images or vulgar language. I feel like overall they acted stuck up and arrogant or something, that or they just didn't like me. Now the sponsor left the club but will return to see how things are going and someone else who has been helping out for awhile is the new sponsor and the upperclassmen who acted like that graduated this past May so things will be different this year. I have been thinking of whether or not I should stay in the club or leave, maybe it would depend on how it turns out this year. Maybe I'm overreacting but I just feel like I don't belong there or they really didn't like me. I have become a part of the leadership team but there were times when they still acted like I wasn't good enough to do some of the things they do. It was a Christian fellowship club. Maybe I am overreacting but I kind of wonder if I really belong in that club or not. Maybe they secretly don't want me in it which sometimes I feel like that is the case. Just so confused but we'll see what happens in the future.

[kaliope]

well, I would stick it out and see if things change now that those people are gone and you are in a leadership position. if things don't change and you are still frustrated, then it probably isn't worth the frustration. take care.

[waiting4]

I agree with kaliope....give it another shot as things have changed. Some people just have lousy interpersonal skills, so try to let last year go, and open yourself to the new year. If things seem to be feeling the same as in the past, you can always quit then. At least, you will have given it a fair shot.

Good luck!

[hvert]

I was going to say, ditch the club, until I saw that these problematic people will be gone this year. I would give it a chance -- there may be some new members you hit it off with. If not, you can always quit later.

[healingme4me]

I'd give it another chance. Initial intro, felt the girl was behaving in a mothering, way. Not in a negative, but positive way. An accepting way. Not sure about the others, but they've graduated. ..