[Lovelybrain20]

I just don't understand why i can't find someone for me. I feel like i'm a good person. I try to live by the Golden Rule. I have a huge heart and i'm pretty funny. Maybe i'm looking in the wrong places. Everyone needs love. I need love. I want to make someone smile. I want someone who looks forward to seeing me and talking to me. I'd love to have a partner in this roller coaster called 'Life'.

[Travelinglady]

Hello, lovelybrain20, and welcome to Psych Central! I'm sure you deserve love. Where are you looking for it?

[offthegrid]

You do deserve love and just because it hasn't happened doesn't mean it won't or it can't. There's quite a few to wade through to find the ONE that works best you. Sometimes, you dodge bullets by not ending up with certain people.

[JoeS21]

Deserving something and having something are two different things. You sound deserving. If you are looking for a solution to a problem, maybe you could provide more detail. Otherwise, I take it you're only looking for support.

If you are speaking about love as in a significant other, remember that practically everyone is single sometimes prior to marriage. And there is no magic wand that ANYONE can waive to get an SO just because they want one. It doesn't matter how attractive, hot, nice, generous, etc. you are. It's just how it goes.

[leeann66]

Love will come when you least expect it. Don't try to chase it.

[AllonsY]

Originally Posted by leeann66

Love will come when you least expect it. Don't try to chase it.

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[MeganX13]

Originally Posted by Lovelybrain20

I just don't understand why i can't find someone for me. I feel like i'm a good person. I try to live by the Golden Rule. I have a huge heart and i'm pretty funny. Maybe i'm looking in the wrong places. Everyone needs love. I need love. I want to make someone smile. I want someone who looks forward to seeing me and talking to me. I'd love to have a partner in this roller coaster called 'Life'.

I use to feel this way. Sometimes when we are so kind hearted, we attract people who like to take advantage of us. There are bad people all around us and some people with control issues or who are generally needed, will cling to big hearted, tender people in order to take advantage of their vulnerability. Anytime someone is out searching for love, it's easy to see their desperation. You should be the best version of you possible, find other ways to be happy, and love will find you!! Good luck, don't give up and stay strong. Everybody has a person out there made for them.

[kila82]

Of course you deserve to be loved!! Like leeann66 said, it comes when you least expect it, so don't chase it. And boy is that true! Learn to love yourself and the people in your life who already love you. You don't NEED someone to love you and make you happy, but you DESERVE someone who will enhance your life and share it with you and love you for you!

[Lovelybrain20]

Thank you guys sooo much

[Perna]

Don't give up quite so early. I was 34 when I met Prince Charming and 39 when I married!

[healingme4me]

Being in a relationship impasse, isn't about being undeserving of love. Just in a hold pattern.

Focusing on your likes and hobbies, is a good idea, while single. Places you in a better position to sift through what's out there. Don't need to date, to observe characteristics that are either desirable or undesirable.