[darksoul1886]

This is such a complicated. But let me start by saying that i started a relationship with my best friend back in January. It's been a complete roll caster. I was trying to end a 10 year relationship and he had ended his relationship with his girlfriend.

It was difficult to end my relationship because i didn't want to hurt my x's feelings. After such a long time together i wanted to end peacefully.

Everything was going great with my best friend/boyfriend. we started planning our lives together but he has issue of letting work get to him. He gets upset and angry. He then starts to withdrawal. Into a depression. This happened back in March and i kept pushing him to understand what was wrong. He eventually said that it was my negative attitude. The whole time he was telling me it was work but in reality it was me. We talked and moved on. I started to work on being more positive.

Few months later, it started again. He withdrew and he kept saying it was work. I knew better especially since we had a previous conversation where he asked that i finally pick him, my ex, or no one. it hurt because i thought i had already picked him. We essentially talked it though and i thought we were okay. We texted every day like usual and with our usual banter. But then he started texting less to the point of no communication at all. When i pushed again he said that it's his work and the fact that i couldn't make up my mind.

It's been five weeks since i last saw him. He doesn't really want to see me. He says he doesn't want to be around anyone. He says he feels broken and he's trying to fix himself. i just don't get it. He started to text again but he never calls. I always call to cheer him up when he tells me work was bad. I've suggested seeing him a few times but he's always busy.

I just don't know what to do. Do i keep waiting until he finally feels better or do i just move on?

He's just so negative about work, his life...everything. I never know who i'm going to get when i text him. One minute, he's sweet and we're back to our usual banter. or i get, the i hate my job and i want to go home and sleep guy.

[kaliope]

hi darksoul
well, it does sound like he is broken and he likes to project his problems on to you. if you like living life this way, being on this roller coaster as you call it, then sure, hang in there. be a victim of his every changing moods. you are not going to be able to save him. if you want a healthy relationship in your life, to be loved and cared for,then move on. welcome to psych central. you will find we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome

[curley]

Well it kind of sounds like this guy does not know what he wants. I think it is strange that he tells you his moods are because of work and then he says they are because you can not make up your mind. Maybe I missed something there....make up your mind about what?
As far as waiting around for him to feel better ummmmm, find another friend to hang with or some other fun things to do. He does not seem to want you to call him so if he texts you just text him back with brief texts. Remember to keep your negativity in check, but not just for him.....for you.
A positive attitude and a smile on the outside can even do wonders for the inside!!!!!