[tiodlliwi]

Maybe some of you out there can relate- but lately I am having a hard time figuring out how NOT to worry about my parents disaproval lately. It's not even real disaproval, voiced in an aggressive manner, it is more or less a feeling I get from them in small comments or things like that.

For example, my husband currently works for my dad's company. This can be very difficult at times. When my husband has a hard day at work, I find it difficult NOT to feel like he is complaining about my dad and I get defensive and don't let him get it out. He is not really enjoying what he does anymore and would like to try something else. Here are a couple problems: he isn't sure what he would like to do and doesn't have a degree and secondly, he makes pretty good money with my dad and so it would be tough for him to basically start over- would most likely be a pay cut.

I get really nervous and worked up about this. What will he do? Will my parents approve? If he works as an "x" will they think he's not "supporting" me well enough?

From others' recent responses to my posts who have all been really supportive, I've gotten the impression that I should just let things happen- let him do his thing, whatever that may be and not be concerned about the money as long as we are able to meet our needs. And I KNOW I should especially not worry about what my parents will think. If I just continue to try to convince my hubby that staying in a semi-stressful job doing something he doesn't really like just for a little more job security and for MY OWN emotional well-being is not okay and will make him feel trapped, right?

Maybe I just answered my own questions and maybe I just needed to vent. But I guess I just need support and maybe just to hear that everything is going to be all right and to just chill out! Any takers?

[bryan239]

Hey tiodlliwi maybe I can help you again. This guy I knew came up to me and said that he had personal problems and couldnt run his business anymore. He asked me if I would and I said yes. I had no idea how to run a business, how to hire/fire someone but I did know how to do the work. I did something that alot of people told me NOT to do. Dont hire family or friends. I didnt hire a family memeber but I did hire one of my good close friends. Before I hired him I showed him what I did every day. I painted new construction track houses. I knew that he had no idea how to paint, that he never step foot on a construction site and that I would be following behind him fixing his work. The first thing I told him was that work stays at work and leave personal problems at home. With that, it seemed to work very well for me and him. Im sure he went home at times and complained about me but it was only about work problems. Im sure that your dad isnt the same person you know when hes at work. He most likely doesnt let you or anyother family memeber know the true stress of the job and being a boss. Work has to stay at work! With your husband im sure hes just upset with work and not with your father personaly. Work is always stressful. If your afraid of what your parents might say or think if your husband quits his job, talk to them. People usually quit there jobs for 3 reasons. Not enough money, not happy with what they are doing, or they hit there glass ceiling and would want to advance more. If your husband isnt happy with what hes doing then tell your parents that. Hes not happy with THE WORK. Tell them that he just wants to be happy with what he does every day, your parents cant get mad at that. Your dad is happy with his work and enjoys it so it isnt a bad thing that your husband does the same. Maybe your husband sees that in the long run if he leaves his job now and gets a new one that later on it will pay off and he will make more money then what your dad could pay him and inreturn your husband would be happy, you would be happy because he would be making more money and be happy, your family would be happy for the both of you. Talk to your husband about work and just listen to what he has to say. He is probably just upset with what he does everyday and when you are not happy with your job your just not a happy person. Like I said more then likely hes just complaining about work and not about your dad personaly. Just remember people are different at work and work should stay at work! hope this helps alittle!

[SeptemberMorn]

I believe that for a person to be truly successful, not only in terms of money but in other areas as well, they need to do what they love the most.