[PianogirlPlays]

Thinking that a hurtful action represents a lack of love but you can hurt someone you love and someone who loves you can hurt you too. I have been really upsetting mysef over some events that felt painful and yet in each case the people have said and in many other ways shown me that they do love me. Hard not to jump to wrong conclusions. Hard not to let that be your whole focus. Hard to overcome and believe the truth that love is imperfect. That people have their own problems, needs and joys and errors come oftentimes from their own pain. Imperfect people living in an imperfect world!

[IrisBloom]

It is human to unintentionally hurt those you love. But if they lie to you that is willful. Love involves trust. How can you trust someone who lies to you?

[MissBelle00]

Originally Posted by IrisBloom

It is human to unintentionally hurt those you love. But if they lie to you that is willful. Love involves trust. How can you trust someone who lies to you?

I agree.

That kind of thinking, while hopeful, can also be harmful. You shouldn't stay with a chronic liar because they say, and you believe, that they love you.

Sometimes love just isn't enough. Love surely isn't enough when you are being abused. Regardless of how that person feels about you, you shouldn't stay in an abusive relationship.

Sometimes we lie not to hurt someone's feelings or because we have done/said something bad about the person, we lie so they will still like us. We want it all, we want to keep a relationship with someone for "appearances" not really because we genuinely love them. They want to commit acts against the one they love and still be loved anyway. They somehow believe there are no repercussions for their bad behavior because they are so "great".

The one's we genuinely love, we do not go behind their back and do something/say something bad about them. If a liar really didn't mean to wrong the one they love, when they are caught in their lie, they would not perpetuate it by lying further. They would not deny their actions and ask others to "cover up" for them. If they truly cared for the person to whom they were lying, they would own up to their mistake and ask for forgiveness. Lies beget more lies and so it goes until it blows up in their face. They may be sorry later but only as it relates to themselves and being caught. They are not sorry about what they did because they knew very well what they were doing (and having their fun doing it). I think it revolves around the ego and thinking so highly of oneself that they are immune from accountability. Not sure of the psychology behind that. IF one is caught in their lie and still denies their actions, well then, they are asking for trouble in the relationship.

A liar should realize they are not going to get away with lying forever. This is a problem that they need to see a T about. It could seriously affect many of their relationships in life. Guaranteed that if the liar is lying to you, they are also lying to others in their life. It just goes without saying.