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Old Aug 16, 2014, 08:58 PM
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We've only been together for four months, he knows I've been diagnosed with major depression and take meds for it, but I'm not so sure he really understands it. On the days when my depression gets the best of me and I just feel bad, he'll keep asking why I'm feeling that way. It gets frustrating having to explain over and over that I don't always have a specific reason to feel depressed, I just do.

I guess my question is how can I explain it better to him? Have any of you had to do this with your significant other?



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Old Aug 17, 2014, 03:46 AM
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“If you know someone who’s depressed, please resolve never to ask them why. Depression isn’t a straightforward response to a bad situation; depression just is, like the weather.

Try to understand the blackness, lethargy, hopelessness, and loneliness they’re going through. Be there for them when they come through the other side. It’s hard to be a friend to someone who’s depressed, but it is one of the kindest, noblest, and best things you will ever do.” ~Stephen Fry
Hello, downontheupside.

Depression Symptoms, Information and Treatment - Psych Central
Depression (major depression) Definition - Diseases and Conditions - Mayo Clinic

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Old Aug 17, 2014, 04:07 AM
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Thank you glok!
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It can be frustrating to explain it's just a part of who you are. We all have our own problems to deal with. Is it affecting the relationship, in some way?
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Old Aug 17, 2014, 08:02 AM
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I know it's hard on someone else. Let him know that. He can start to learn more about it as well...Psych Central has a good list of what others should not say to someone who is depressed (some say these things without really knowing better).
10 Things Not to Say to a Depressed Person | World of Psychology
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Old Aug 17, 2014, 06:22 PM
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Healingme4me, it hasn't affected things so far, but I'm worried it will if I don't get my symptoms in control. I don't want him to think I'm always going to be feeling this way and that we won't have any fun.

Brainhi, thank you for that article, I definitely need to show him that.
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