[fmpro]

my mom is in jail for six months for a financial crime and I am her 14 year old daughter. I was thinking of how things will be when she comes back home ,isn't kind of weird now that now she is a criminal that went to jail and she will order me around? I mean isn't that kind of hypocritical (kind of funny as well since she was being ordered around for the past five months). I have no problem with her though as other than this misdeed she has been a good mom to me.


also, is this weird, I have talked to my on the phone while she is there and for some reason I feel more comfortable being open with her about anything now then when she was actually here. Any reason why I would feel that way now?

another weird feeling I have, I just realized now that if my dad was the one in jail I would feel a lot worse. I wonder why though. I like them both equally and neither committed a crime before , hell my dad is probably more strict

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Originally Posted by fmpro

my mom is in jail for six months for a financial crime and I am her 14 year old daughter. I was thinking of how things will be when she comes back home ,isn't kind of weird now that now she is a criminal that went to jail and she will order me around? I mean isn't that kind of hypocritical (kind of funny as well since she was being ordered around for the past five months). I have no problem with her though as other than this misdeed she has been a good mom to me.

No it wouldn't be hypocritical, (although I can see why it could be) but parents guide us from experience. So your mom would be guiding and parenting you from a first hand experience of what its like to make the wrong choices, and face the consequences for them, no matter what the reasons are that may lead you there... Me personally? I appreciate knowledge that was earned and not read in some textbook. That's not to say I wish one of my parents had gone to jail, but yes, I would take "stay out jail" and "make the right choices" lessons more seriously from someone in the know. They would be readily accepted by me... But that's just me

also, is this weird, I have talked to my on the phone while she is there and for some reason I feel more comfortable being open with her about anything now then when she was actually here. Any reason why I would feel that way now?

Not weird at all no! You see your mom as an actual humanbeing now. One who is capable of making mistakes and exercising bad judgment. This makes her more relatable to you on a personal level, and will hopefully strengthen the relationship between you 2.

another weird feeling I have, I just realized now that if my dad was the one in jail I would feel a lot worse. I wonder why though. I like them both equally and neither committed a crime before , hell my dad is probably more strict

The last bit, I don't think its weird either, sometimes us girls put our daddys on a pedestal. Sometimes we think they're superman and can do no wrong or come to no harm. These feelings aren't always conscious, but IME they are pretty common when you grow up having a dad worth looking up to. So stands to reason you may feel worse had he gone to jail. Doesn't mean you love your mom any less, you just love them from different angles...

[curley]

Hi FMpro. Actually I think it is sad that you are doubting your moms ability to be your mom again. Well, she has always been your mom, and I see no reason why you should feel differently toward her.
Everyone makes mistakes, some people make bigger mistakes and sometimes jail or prison is a punishment.
If your mom has always been a good mom then I doubt that will change.
I think many times dads can do no wrong, and moms are expected to be perfect and never make mistakes.
There is no reason for things to change between you, just go on like you always have!!!

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Originally Posted by fmpro

my mom is in jail for six months for a financial crime and I am her 14 year old daughter. I was thinking of how things will be when she comes back home ,isn't kind of weird now that now she is a criminal that went to jail and she will order me around? I mean isn't that kind of hypocritical (kind of funny as well since she was being ordered around for the past five months). I have no problem with her though as other than this misdeed she has been a good mom to me.

haha. nice try. she's still your mom so she gets to order you around.

also, is this weird, I have talked to my on the phone while she is there and for some reason I feel more comfortable being open with her about anything now then when she was actually here. Any reason why I would feel that way now?

i agree that she seems more human now. you know now that she knows what it feels like to make mistakes and get caught and have to deal with the consequences. also, sometimes it is easier to say things over the phone than in person.

another weird feeling I have, I just realized now that if my dad was the one in jail I would feel a lot worse. I wonder why though. I like them both equally and neither committed a crime before , hell my dad is probably more strict

maybe it would be more surprising and thus upsetting because he is stricter?

your feelings are all definitely okay. for the most part i'd just treat her the same. at first, it might be a bit tough for her when she gets out so i'd just try to be understanding and tell her how much you love her. i'm glad that overall you have good parents that you love.