[mindamarie]

Okay so I know I'm only 15, so I dont expect anything serious out of this yet. But I really love this guy, and he says he feels the same way. But I always have to text him first and when I text him he seems so uninterested, like he doesnt care. And I feel guilty whenever I vent to him because he seems like he has his own problems, but I just need someone to talk to. I'm scared he'll get tired of me like everybody else

[LightningMan]

It seems there are a few things going on here.

I would suggest you look into some books on how men communicate differently from women. His not texting you first could just be him being a guy.

Next, you need to develop some more confidence in yourself and the skills to know when you might be oversharing. The kind of venting you need to do may be better suited for a girl than a guy. The fact that you said people get tired of you could indicate the oversharing or it could just be your misreading the situation.

At any rate, value you to yourself and you will attract people to you who value you for yourself as well.

And "really loving" somebody at 15 might honestly not be love at all, not to be dismissive but just letting you know from age 50.

[Sunflower0440]

Some guys just don't like to text, your only 15 so don't take things to seriously. Enjoy life and the things it brings to you. You say you love him, and I'm not going to tell you that you don't, I remember being 15, but keep in mind that you can have many loves in your lifetime, they all wont last forever.

and... hangout in person if he seems to disinterested over the phone

[Harley47]

I'd tell you your recognition of "teen love" speaks to an uncommon wisdom for your age. You oughtta be proud.

At any rate, yes, it could just be him being a guy. Men and women communicate slightly differently, and it could wholly be possible that your "disinterested" is simply his "I understand A, therefore here is B." Does that any sense? I struggled with how to word that.

If it bothers you, why not ask him about it? I'm sure he'd be willing to talk to you about it.

Also, Sunflower gave good advice that I hope you'll take to heart. I hope things work out for you.

[BDPpartner]

Hi maybe you should try the old trick of playing hard to get, by which i mean don't be so eager to text him and perhaps sometimes let him come to you. Spend time enjoying life with friends, then your bf who you said has problems of his own will have time to deal with his issues. Most boys and men for that matter find it hard to share especially with us girls.

[isadora]

Originally Posted by mindamarie

Okay so I know I'm only 15, so I dont expect anything serious out of this yet. But I really love this guy, and he says he feels the same way. But I always have to text him first and when I text him he seems so uninterested, like he doesnt care. And I feel guilty whenever I vent to him because he seems like he has his own problems, but I just need someone to talk to. I'm scared he'll get tired of me like everybody else

Sorry to hear what your going thru. If you need someone to talk to you can send me a PM
It must be hard what your feeling sending you hugs

Take Care

[mindamarie]

Originally Posted by isadora

Sorry to hear what your going thru. If you need someone to talk to you can send me a PM
It must be hard what your feeling sending you hugs

Take Care

thanks

[mommyof2girls]

Mindamarie.....Sorry to hear what you are going thru...sending hugs your way

[ThatChillGuy]

I was totally in the same exact situation you were in. I'm 16 and I was in a small relationship with one of my co-workers (I'm a lifeguard). I was really into her, she was gorgeous and funny. Though my gut gave me such a bad feeling about her. Though I chose to feel it out. In the end she thought we rushed into everything and ended it. Though like you her texts left me questioning her all the time. My advice is, ask your partners true feelings. Don't be Afraid not to, it will make you feel like you got that question that was poking the back of your brain right on outta there. Follow your feelings, do what will insure your happiness.

[lilypup]

Yes, it sounds like you have a lot going on. Remember that this situation will not last forever, and you will come through healthy, happy, and ready to meet the next guy. These things have a way of sorting themselves out. Don't forget to take care of yourself. Spend time with your girlfriends and do other activities. Try not to be too sad over whether he texts or not. Time will tell if it will work out.
Best wishes and many hugs to you.

[~Christina]

This thread goes back to 2012 .. I hope the Op was able to make healthy choices and having a wonderful life