[DianaMariemad]

Although I am reaching a point where I don't want to be with my ex again I often wonder the possibilities that the future could hold. We were together for over 8 years and have 2 kids with another on the way so we will always have a unique connection while I am still pregnant and he does want to be involved as much as he can. One of the biggest issues that my ex had with our relationship was that we were never really friends and he wants to be friends now. We will be spending a lot of time together because of our kids, we take them to the park or out to eat together. He will also be there when the baby comes and after that period to help me, he won't be taking the baby away from me for any period of time because I will be breastfeeding and he says he isn't good with babies. My heart does still ache after the breakup but if we are able to develop a friendship is it possible to start to grow feelings for your ex again?

[Creamsickle]

I believe it is possible. Those feelings are still there just buried for now.

[healingme4me]

Sure, why not be amicable?

Be Careful with behaving like a family, when it isn't the reality. Can send mixed messages to the children that mommy and daddy may get back together when that isn't the truth.

[~Christina]

Its always best to be civil when breakups happen ..

It took me about 6 months to be able to feeling ok being around my ex with out feeling distraught that our marriage ended and he cheated etc I just felt like a raw nerve .. I had to let go of the love that I once had for him.. Then we were able to have a friendship of sorts. But it took time..
I saw him alot he was always around picking our daughter ,, But I did not get into going out for dinner with him and her or having one birthday party .. No thanks . Amanda had 2 birthday parties , 2 Christmas's ... We both were there for her high school graduation and will be if she get married one day..
Theres no right or wrong way to process a break up .. Just make sure your emotional well being is looked after.

[lilypup]

Just see how responsible he is about helping you out with the baby and the other kids. I don't quite get the part about the relationship didn't work because you were never friends. I would think having three children together in a relationship would be adequate "friendship".
My personal experience is that you cannot be true friends with an ex. You can be social and get along for the children's sake. Look for friendships somewhere else.

[jimmy rich]

Originally Posted by DianaMariemad

My heart does still ache after the breakup but if we are able to develop a friendship is it possible to start to grow feelings for your ex again?

I think it is - IF the partners study, learn and USE the relationship skills and techniques taught by people like Barbara DeAngelis [http://www.barbaradeangelis.com/advice_CandI.asp] who helped my wife and I create a powerful, loving and consistently HAPPY marriage.
We learned to use the "20 second kiss" which is a technique to gently embrace and HOLD a long kiss with my partner to strengthen intimacy and closeness WITHOUT having an agenda like jumping into bed. The point of the 20 second kiss is to overcome the tendency to just "peck" one's partner on the face with a quick, uninspired & dispassionate kiss UNLESS they have sex in mind in which case the kiss will generally be longer!
We loved that technique and used it a lot at the beginning and still try to hold LONG kisses instead of the typical peck on the face that most couples fall down to as the relationship FADES!
There are a lot more of these intimacy/love building techniques like: frequent expressions of love and affection, kindness, politeness and overall actions and attitudes that are there at the beginning of a HOT relationship but then inevitably fade and die in most marriages where the couples simply do not know how to keep their love alive and actually GROWING.
I cannot tell you or anyone what to do or how to do it but studying and USING the good relationship skills that we found in books and at Google has made our marriage last and improve while literally everyone in our family has LOST their partner or wish they had lost them!
I could never say enogh about the values of learning how to make a relationship work and it's the best thing that could ever happen for the children of such a happy, growing relationship so,
good luck,
jim

[ChildlikeEmpress]

I think it's possible, too. That's how it happened for my parents anyway. They divorced when I was 14, but after a couple of years of being angry with each other they became friends again and have pretty much remained very good friends ever since. The divorce was over 20 years ago now.

[Luvmetru29]

I believe that it's possible that things could work out. Just be careful that you both stay on the same page.