[MjsMustang21]

As I've said in a previois post on here I am in a relationship of two years with a wonderful woman. However, one of the hardest things on our relationship is that she has a mother who is a recovering alcoholic. (I should also note her dad passed away primarily from drinking too among other health problems).

Her mother is the sweetest and kindest woman I thinj I've ever met but she carries with her this extrmeme depression which I'm sure is in part due to her husband passing away at such a young age. However, she's beeen really good lately she's been to rehab and attends meetings almost daily and in fact has been sober for nearly 30 days.

I just never know what to say to comfort my gf and try to relate. I have been blessed in that both of my parents haven't had ant problem like this. Has anyone else on here had a similar experience or can someone offer me some advice on being able to say the right thing? I feel like sometimes she doesn't even want to talk about it and when a date passes such as her dads bday or the day he passws she becomes very distant too

[Brittnyschwartz07]

Can you say, honey I know I can't understand the real depth of how you feel about everything that's been going on. But I want you to know that I'm proud of you and your a very strong woman and I'll stick by your side through anything, if there's a time where you need to talk to anybody, I'm all ears....something like that maybe in your Je ne sais quoi ( (i had to google that one)

[hvert]

I wouldn't stress about this. If you haven't already, ask her how you should recognize those days.

I find that I don't often want to talk about my messed up parents unless they do something that irritates me or I happen to remember something crappy they did years ago-- so, yeah, there is a good chance that she just doesn't want to talk about it. I like swapping stories with someone else who had parents like mine, but otherwise, it's just not something I want to talk about-- but that's me, not your gf, so I would ask her