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Aug 21, 2014, 05:44 PM
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So my husband has been living in Virginia for 8 months for a new job and I have been left alone to do what needs to be done in regards to packing the house up and sell it. Has has not once come home on a week end just to see me. He always links it to weekend seminars or other things. So I have maybe slept in the same bed as him 5 times in 8 months. No physical contact either. Anyway he said he was going to leave right after work Thursday night to come home for Labor Day weekend. He just called me to tell me that he will be leaving Friday instead because he has a hair cut Thursday after work. WTF! It is a simple mens hair cut. What you can't call and change it to Wed or another day? Do I not even rate! I verbally let him have it and hung up. I told him I could give a **** if he stays in Virginia it was the the point that I was not worth moving a hair appt.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors. |
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Aug 21, 2014, 09:38 PM
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Dear Moxie, I can see you are frustrated by the situation but hanging up does not work to a solution but reinforces the fences. Could you make something he likes to eat.
How are things coming with the house? Is there a light at the end of the tunnel? |
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Aug 22, 2014, 05:24 AM
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What? Really?! Wow......no the SOB can home home and make ME something I like to eat.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors. |
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Aug 22, 2014, 05:35 AM
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Never mind the holiday traffic. He couldn't leave, after the haircut? And why is there a lack of physical intimacy, after being apart for so long?
I do feel hanging up doesn't resolve much. Just displays, feeling hung up on in the relationship. Unheard, etc. Is counseling an option for either or both of you, to try and repair what's looking like a relationship breakdown? |
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Aug 22, 2014, 01:31 PM
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What an assholian move, to choose a hair appointment over you!!!
I'd be tempted to shave his head bald, that way he wouldn't have any hair to use as an excuse next time! I'm sorry Moxie, I really am, idk what to say to make you feel better, or if there are any words that even can. But know that I feel your hurt, anger and frustration and that your feelings are justified. Idk how you do it, I don't think I could, you're one strong woman! 
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