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Old Aug 23, 2014, 08:00 AM
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Hello everyone.
First I want to say sorry about my english, but I'm from Bulgaria and its not my mothers language.
My story is very long, but I'll try to make it short.
So here we go.... When I was child I was living in province with my grandparents, I was very active child, I was very popular at school, I had lots of friends, but I was fat (after few pneumonia) and boys didn't like me so I wasn't happy about it.... but still everyone was friend with me and it was keeping me good. Anyway, later on my teenager years, I moved in the capital city with my mother. You know teenagers are rude and they really pull me down with them words "you are fat" etc etc. So there was very popular chat app in bulgaria, there I made a fake account and I was pretending I'm a "hot chick", but after about an year I said I must to give up on this and make real friends, so I did. I stopped using it, I started to be more communicative and I put on myself more self-confidence, I found lots of friends, I was spending my teenager years outside all the time...but high school has finished and everyone started his own life. My best friend got pregnant and she married, other friends moved in different places, started job, we had no time to meet each other and that's how I felt lonely again. I started university in different city, but part time, ie 25 days 2 times in the year, I couldn't find a job, because here everything happens so hard. So I decided to make a fake facebook account so I can speak with someone and don't be that much lonely... I did it, I added lots of people, I usually used it to play games all day long and almost didn't speak with people. 1 year later I found a job, I started, but it was so far away from my home and I was leaving home very early, coming back home so tired and just had no power to play games or sit on internet, so for few months I was absolutely excited about my job and almost didn't open this fake account... But its Bulgaria, most of people are so rude and bad, most of my colleagues are over 45 and they couldn't accept how one 22 years old girl can be that much good with his work so they started to jealous it and started to be bad with me, I was feeling really bad, thats how one night I just opened fake account and just started to chatting with people who were online. I relaxed like this... so that's how I kept this account, kept speaking with random people and share my problems and they were understanding me... well until here nothing that much bad I know...
So now I'm 25 years old. I had no boyfriend in the past 4 years. But it wasn't that much bad, I was spending my last 3 years with work and problems at work and then coming back home and sharing my problems from my fake account to random people... but of course there was something good about my job - I found a friend, she's 40 years old now, but we became very good friends for very short time, now she addopted a child, so like you can imagine we cant see each other or speak that much. Many times I was thinking I must to delete my fake account, but something always stopped me - like I said after high school I stopped meeting my friends, with some of them we still keep in touch, we meet 4-5 times in the year, we are speaking sometimes, but that's all... I was feeling lonely. I need someone to speak and share and this account was good for me... until one day... the day one guy messaged me. We started to speak too much for few days, then we made a relationship in facebook (with my fake account). He's 24 years old guy from turkey, but he's studying here. It all started with joke... just one day he said "why don't you make a relationship with me" and i said "why not", he sent me request for relationship... it all was a joke and I didn't feel how it all became serious, how i felt in love... just one day I recognized him that its all serious and he do loves me. I started to use every good moment to fight with him and act bad with him, I was hoping he will give up on me, but he didn't. Everything I was fighting with him, he changed and he never did again... so at the end I couldn't find a way to make him to leave me, but on meantime I couldn't tell him the truth about me. I lied him I'm living in romania at the moment because of university and I'm finishing this year (in fact I'm actually finishing my bachelor degree this year, I have only final state exam remaining). Summer came, he went back turkey and we were talking how when he come back I'll be already in Sofia and we will start to live together etc etc. All summer he was absolutely perfect, I had no even a reason to fight with him. Time passsed so fast, before few weeks I was ill, my blood pressure was so low, doctors says because of stress (probably in work), but on my head was only what I'm gonna do with him... Time passing, he gonna come back Sofia after 4 days and he gonna leave the house he was on rent, the guy he lived with will go to live with other friends....and I just don't know how to tell him the truth before its too late, before he lose his house and the guy he living with.... I cannot wait anymore because I know if I don't tell him now and I find some excuse that I need to stay in romania for 1-2 weeks more, after this I will just have to tell him the truth... The problem is that he has been hurt a lot in his life, when we started to speak he was even smoking marijuana and he gave up because of me, he gave up on his bad company because of me and now I guess he will just go back to it.
Really I don't know what to do and how to tell him.
Please, don't judge me, because I'm judging myself enough. Just give me your advice about what to do with him and how to get out of this story....
And I know it became too much, but also I want to ask for some help, how to get back into normal life, I don't wanna end up alone. I want friends. I want a little bit self-confidence.
Thanks in advance to everyone who gonna read it and who gonna give me advice or help me.
Have a good day everyone
Hugs from:
Me and my dog

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Old Aug 23, 2014, 10:13 AM
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I would suggest being very honest with him, at this point. Explaining like you did here. Maybe even sharing like you did here?
There's a chance he'll turn from you, but there is a chance he might accept this.
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Old Aug 23, 2014, 10:17 AM
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I will try, thank you.
Thanks for this!
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Old Aug 23, 2014, 10:19 AM
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I would suggest being very honest with him, at this point. Explaining like you did here. Maybe even sharing like you did here?
There's a chance he'll turn from you, but there is a chance he might accept this.
This is good advice, I would go with it
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