[Diamond-eyes]

Does age matter when dating? I have met a attractive man that I really like and I would hope to date. He's a bit older then me and a nice break from the immature younger guys but looks younger. He's 38 and am 27. Btw, how long should one wait in a fresh relationship before texting then back. A few days or a week?

[Agentfyre]

Ouch, sorry, I have a bit of a pet peeve when it comes to "how long should I wait before..." questions in relationships. Honestly, there's no blueprint. If you want to text him, text him. There's no need to wait. What you say and how you say it will mean a lot more than the timeframe, so if you use wording that sounds needy and desperate it won't matter if you wait weeks or months. At the same time, if you sound confident but just wanting to spend more time together, then it doesn't matter if he hears from you immediately after you see him.

Sorry about the rant. On to age: 27 and 38 is a good stretch, but you gotta make your choice over time. That's the key part. The age difference is nothing is you two really get along well, communicate great, and enjoy being together. Others may have a problem, but you'll never make everyone happy. My grandparents are at least 9 years apart, I know that. But the over time part is key. Constantly assessing over time whether this person is someone you want to spend the rest of your life with is the most important part. Just be honest with yourself and him, and everything will be fine.

[healingme4me]

In my mind, age differences needn't matter. What matters more is how two people interact.

I'm a bit uncertain about the how long to wait question. If you feel comfortable, could you elaborate more? I don't find myself able to answer, because it could be a question sparked by a couple different scenarios needing different answers based on what's driving the question.

I've had and currently have a twelve year span. My maternal grandparents were about 8-9 years apart, and my paternal grandmother was a year older than my paternal grandfather, which back then raised eyebrows. Eyebrows not much raised with maternal grandparents.

[manxcatwoman]

At some point there might be a generation gap. That's what happened to me. I was 21 and he was 34. We were very different in a lot of ways. We didn't even like the same decade of music. But most of our problems was because of the age difference. An older woman tried to point that out to me but I guess I had to see it for myself. A huge mistake.

[IchbinkeinTeufel]

In my opinion/experience, yes, definitely.

If you want to text him, text him. There's no need to wait.

Agreed!

[Nina Simone]

I just read a great article about dating! The writer said you should be excited about the other person and they should be excited about you otherwise why bother. The article is by Mark Manson called F**K Yes (but spelled out).
I couldn't post the link because of the profanity.

[ptangptang]

That's not a huge age gap and i wouldn't worry about it. As for texting a week is much too long. A lot can happen in a week. 3 days at the most. Next day i think is about right.

[hvert]

Wow, that article was a good read -- I don't agree with everything in it, but the idea that you can tell if someone is into you by them being 100% excited about you is SO RIGHT. When two people click, no one is counting minutes between text messages because neither person can resist sending them.

[archipelago]

When I started my relationship, the age difference was very problematic…but for other people not for us. It is an unusual case. There are 37 years between us. I can sorta understand why people had problems though it really was none of their business.

Anyway, we have been together for 30 years now and still going strong. Everyone who had a problem or doubts, they were all proven wrong.

[~Christina]

The one thing that can often be left out is the discussion about "Children" As long as both parties agree on that issue it could certainly work of course ... Sometimes down the road the "biological clock" can start ticking for some women and lead to problems... thats the only down side I ever think about when it comes to age difference's

Text away

[lilypup]

When you meet the right person, you don't worry about when to text or call back.

[ChipperMonkey]

If someone took a week to text me back, you better believe I'd lose interest and assume that they decided to reply because they decided that they had nothing better to do after a week. Long/short, if you want to reply to his text, then reply. Don't play the waiting game.

[Diamond-eyes]

Oh, he already has a son and I don't think he wants anymore children.

[~Christina]

Originally Posted by Diamond-eyes

Oh, he already has a son and I don't think he wants anymore children.

Is that alright with you ?

[Diamond-eyes]

Yes, it is.