[WiltingLavender]

I have a very difficult time makingn friends, and I hope no one laughs at my question but I'm wondering how do you make friends? Where do you go how do you meet? I feel silly asking but I need some hints on how to broden my social circle.

[Hobbit House]

Well, what are your hobbies? Interests? That is a good way to meet people, Also there is a dating web sight specifically for people with a mental illness. No Longer Lonely : Online Social Community for Adults with MentalIllness I hope this helps... Good luck!

[WiltingLavender]

I have many hobbies but live in a small town where there are no little club for hobbies or anything like that, and I don't think a dating site would be right seeing as I am in a relationship. I live in a small town where if your not in school or a heavy drinker you have no where to meet friends. I just wonder how people have made their friends

[Hobbit House]

Well I have made friends on this sight. You just have to open yourself up to the experience. I have made friends at my local library, volunteering at the local animal shelter helping them walk dogs, endless possibilities !
Do you go to any religious services? That is a great place to meet like-minded individuals . Anyway good luck!

[IchbinkeinTeufel]

S'OK, I think it's a perfectly reasonable question. Friendships don't come easily to us all.

I found that meeting one person led to meeting another, then another, then those people meant meeting more people, until I eventually came across a couple of people who ended up being friends. If you don't have that starting point, then a good way is to get out into some sort of event, groups, or perhaps even a part-time college course. Something that gets you meeting people.

[kittyfaye]

I'm almost in your exact situation. I'd like to know how to make friends too, given that I'm very introverted. :/

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I make a lot of friends initially, but they all run away when I start with my usual philosophical, introspective jibber jabber. Over the years, I've learned to to discuss THEIR interests too, even though it's usually just idle chit chat, and I'm not very good at idle chit chat. My friend often says "You shouldn't talk about life all the time, the reason you're depressed is because you question everything, just let things be and live.".

So far, I have found only one friend who understands me, and likes me for what I am, I am thankful for that.

[Raindropvampire]

Is there any volunteer work where you are? Do any of the churches or lodges ever have potluck dinners? Do you have the energy to put together a neighborhood pitch in? Have you checked out meetup.com and seen if there are any groups in your area you'd be interested in? If you like to throw darts or play pool almost every town has leagues at the local bars.

As far as making friends it's a plus if you are outgoing I've also found listening is one of the best skills you can have. A good friend of mine I met in a line at a grocery store. I commented on a book she was buying and we started talking and ten years later still friends lol. Good luck to you.

[WiltingLavender]

Thank you everyone for the comments I'm going to give it all a try. Thanks to you all I kind of know where to start now

[lilypup]

I wrote an entry on my blog about making and keeping friends. If you want to check it out, there might be an idea or two in there.

I do not believe we "make" friends. Friends are gifts that come our way. They come and go...
Sometimes a friend will be a one time encounter. Sometimes they come, go away then come back again. Sometimes they stay with us for life.
It is important to know what a friend is. It is important that we are able to identify them.
It is important that we cherish them. It is most important that we are best friends with ourselves