[new_guy245]

Please be patient with me. I am a professor and I have a situation with a college student . Long story short. This student frequently stops by my office for chit chat. First, I didn't think much of it but then I slowly started developing a strong crush on him. I know that's wrong and so I have been working to distance myself from this student but it's getting out of hand. In fact I asked this student to keep details about his personal life out of our discussion. So, the other day he is in my office and he goes like " I know you don't want to know about my personal life but I am getting married soon.. blah blah". And something tells me he probably knows I have a crush on him because any time he mentions his girl friend, I act upset and indifferent. So, is he just pulling my chain having figured out I am gay?

Considering the fact that my feelings are not going away, things like this have started affecting me.

How do I handle this? After I have explicitly asked him not to talk about his relationship with me he choses to do it anyway. What makes this whole situation incredibly hard is that this particular student has been showering me with compliments both in class and in my office and in the evals. He has been nothing but nice to me. First I thought it was just for grades but that's not the case. He genuinely appreciates my teaching.

So, I am planning to ask him to limit office visits unless he has an academic question. Although this may sound harsh, I believe I need to do this for my own sanity. Any thoughts? I am sure he will be quite upset if I said this but I can't see how else I can prevent him from chit chatting with me.

Please no negative comments. I believe some of this is my fault because I have been encouraging office visits and I am trying hard to shut him down..

We are all humans and the I can't help developing a crush. I am young prof in my 20's. But I am always very professional in my behavior though. It's all just in my head. Any ideas on how to distance myself from him without binge explicit and harsh with him?

[purehoney24]

hello
i feel sorry you are in this situation but maybe you can ask to move and teach in other class instead of the one with that student?
maybe it will be better for you and he also will understand this way it is btter for both of you...what do you say?

[IchbinkeinTeufel]

There is no need to post the same thread again. The old one is still there.

http://forums.psychcentral.com/relat...ork-place.html