Love Styles

I'm going to assume the paradigm of lee's love styles for this post. I'm not sure how valid the model is, and I did ask myself exactly how much thought was put into it when it was described.

It's tempting to see Eros and Ludus on a continuum, for example, where mania lies in between. So a mix of these components might lead to mania. The cure for mania is then to knock one of these components. I find it strange thinking about it that way.

It's interesting that there have been attempts to correlate love styles to attachment styles. It's clear that anxious / insecure is bad, and interestingly enough mania is positively correlated with this attachment style.

Should we all fall into one mold? That is, is there only one healthy love style, pragma, a combination of ludus and storge? Is eros completely bad, and should we knock it out completely to enforce this? I've always preferred the storge + eros mix and never cared to much for ludus.

Hello, googliega, and welcome to Psych Central! Alas, I am not familiar with these love styles, but maybe someone will come along soon who is.

You ask should we fall into a mold. I don't think anyone should fall into a mold. But it seems the studies of different people and how who they are in love shows that people fall into all the the primary or secondary category. But there can be mixtures of both. I think we have all known people that could be placed completely into one category! Some of the categories don't seem very desirable to me!!!