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Sep 24, 2014, 05:53 PM
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I'm new here & apologize if I'm doing this wrong but I need some outside thoughts.
I've been in a relationship (on & off) for over 13 years. It's always been on the difficult side to try & make work but I've done almost everything he asks or I can think of to make him happy & feel part of my family. I have 3 children that aren't his, that's what I refer to as "my family" In a conversation today with a dear friend about what was going on, she shared that from where she stood... I've been in an abusive relationship for years & need to get out before it gets worse. He's never hit me, only threats toward me & now my kids. I'm sure I may sound stupid, but I NEVER thought of myself as in an abusive relationship....it was just stupid arguments & I should've knew better because I know what he expects & doesn't. As I've spent some time online reading & learning what "abuse" can be, I'm shocked. I've told him he needs to get out of my house asap, but he's got no where to go. I don't know what to do now. Or where to start to get my life back, find myself again. I honestly don't even know how to separate my true thoughts from the things he's lead me to believe about myself. I don't know how to find the truth or if I'd recognize it if I did find it. Any thoughts or advice is much appreciated. Thank you |
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#2
Sep 25, 2014, 06:31 AM
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Welcome to PC. Is there are women's resource group in your community? Usually there is now just about everywhere. My sister just got divorced from her husband who she considered very emotionally abusive. Never physical. She got a lot of help from women in a meeting she went to once a week.
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Sep 25, 2014, 07:28 PM
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Sometimes just talking it out with others, that have been through it, can be enlightening. Yet, depending on your social construct, not reacting in an impulsive manner, can maintain social construct/support. In society, fingers are quick to point when a person declares abuse. You mentioned needing to separate truth. Rebuilding self esteem is key, imo. We're here, at PC too, among many places, for support. 
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