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Sep 30, 2014, 09:06 AM
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I grew up in an alcoholic home. There was a lot of turmoil in my young life, including empty promises from both parents. The only person who I felt happy with, my grandma, died when I was still a child. I'm 22 now. When I was 18, I decided to leave home and marry a sailor I had been dating since high school. I thought that I could escape my hectic home if I married him.
My husband started beating and cheating on me when I became pregnant. Now I'm back at my parents home, a single mom with a two year old toddler that I love very much. Getting back in the dating scene is not going well, I can't trust anyone and it's hurting all my relationships... How can I learn to trust people again and fix my insecurity issues? Please help. I've tried to go into counseling but my schedule is just so busy with being a single mom, part time employee and part time student in college. |
 Anonymous100241, Lemon Curd
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Sep 30, 2014, 08:19 PM
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Wow , I am so sorry that you were abused in such a horrible manner . I know you probably don't want to hear this ... but..... You really need Therapy to process all you went through before your ever going to be able to learn and allow yourself to trust once again.
I know your in a crunch for time to see a Therapist ,Focus on healing yourself instead of wasting time in the dating scene thats just not going to take you anywhere at this point. Many Therapist have evening appointments and even weekends. I wish you the best in healing
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#3
Sep 30, 2014, 08:34 PM
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The answer is to trust yourself.
You must come to know that no matter what happens, no matter what other people do, you will be ok. |
| amandastar92
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Sep 30, 2014, 10:23 PM
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You've gotta put yourself first or you won't have anything to give to your children or a new relationship. A new relationship will not help to heal your open wounds. Getting help for yourself will. That's just me. *big warm friendship hug*
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"What a liberation to realize that the, 'voice in my head' is not who I am. Who am I then? The one who sees that." ~Eckhart |
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Oct 01, 2014, 10:23 AM
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If therapy is not feasible right now perhaps you could try some self help books. Most of the books aimed at adult children of alcoholics are helpful. I agree that trying to fill yourself up with a new love interest will likely backfire and leave you feeling even more empty than before.
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| Lemon Curd
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