Help Me, Please?

So... I'm currently debating on what to do, right now, and I would love some input. My best friend and I are in, like, what I call a semi-relationship... We cuddle and hold hands and kiss, but he doesn't want a relationship with me, "right now"... What is the difference??? He's so indecisive, and it kills me. Especially because he asked if I wanted to date a couple nights ago (Granted, he was drunk, so I didn't hold him to it. Like a decent person... Whatever.). But this is very stressful to me, especially because the only person who makes me feel okay is, also, the only person who can make me feel completely miserable. Like now. So, what should I do? Thanks!

Its horrible when someone sends mixed messages. Its like I want what you are giving me but I won't commit to anything. Your either in or your out, don't send me these mixed messages. I have been there.

He's not acting like a "best friend" Id have a sit down talk and sort through all this. Do both of you want to take a chance on a romance ? Usually if the romance goes sour you wont be best friends anymore.. Just a though.

Good luck

"He's not that into you." It'd be a great read for you. It seems like his best friend may be the bottle. Don't you deserve better? Aren't you worthy enough to be in a healthy relationship? I think you are! He's already shown you more than words can say. He's not ready & he's just, "not that into you." If he cared for you & wanted more, you'd know it. Ask yourself, ask your heart, you already have your answer. You can't force someone to be in a relationship with you. You can't force someone to love you. I'd stop the cuddling. It seems to mean way more to you than it does to him. That's just me. *big warm friendship hug*

I love that movie, Nutty Buddy. He's said he likes me, but he's not acting upon it. Last night, he blatantly flirted with another girl right beside me. I'll be honest; I wanted to KILL him... :/ He's my best friend, so that's horrible, I know. But I can love him and be homicidal toward him at the same time, because he is my best friend. Right now, I'm honestly leaning more toward homicidal (WAY toward homicidal). I know we really need to talk, and I plan on it. I just don't know how to start... That seems to be the story of my life. I always care more, and I'm so sick of it. :'( Thanks for all of the support and for listening to my little vent. Now, I'm trying to focus on how I can talk to him...and on not being volatile, because I'm feeling A LOT of rage, right now, and I don't want to feel that toward my best friend.

Aww... shucks ((hugz))

I'm thinking maybe you could also read the notorious 'Rules' book. It helped me to have a different mindset about men and dating. I wonder what would happen if you would become more 'unavailable' and start dating other men? Or sign up for cool things or classes away from him? Or if you'd flirt with other men?
I'd definitely stop the cuddling, holding hands and kissing if you're not in a relationship and the situation is clearly making you uncomfortable.

Maybe go walking/running or doing some physical work or sports to 'let off steam' first, if you're gonna talk to him...
As for beginning the conversation - hmm.. Maybe you could just pull away next time he'd try to hold hands or do something physical and say, 'Hey, we're not a couple (yet) - or are we?' or something like that? 'Are we dating or just friends?'

There are people who are naturally flirty and will flirt with anyone, even if part of a couple. Not sure if he's one, or just 'not that into you' or you've been too available/giving so he's interested elsewhere. You'd have to ask yourself if you'd be willing to put up with this kind of behaviour, and explain if you're dating you don't like it that he flirted with that girl. Maybe he'll deny flirting and just say he was talking to her (and maybe he was, not sure, wasn't there. I just know sometimes people thought I was flirting when I wasn't, and was just expressing enthusiasm and talking in an animated way.)

((hugz)) again PS I'm single so take everything with a grain of salt.

Thanks, SmileHere. I really appreciate your comments/advice. He is one of those naturally flirty people, and I feel jealous about that. If we were in a relationship, it honestly wouldn't bother me that much (Ironic, right? My twisted mind...), because I'd know that I'm still the one he chose. Wish me luck! Going to try to talk to him about it tonight... >.<