[dao]

Hi, All!
I need some advice. I don't know what to do. I met this guy and we really hit it off. We've been kinda dating and I like him a lot but I don't know how much he likes me. We just talk like good friends. My problem is that I don't want to do or say anything that would hurt our friendship. I mean what if he doesn't feel the same way as me. We are both adults but I feel like such a teenager. I really like him a lot and I'm afraid that if I tell him how I feel it will change our relationship. It could turn out good but it could also turn out bad. Anyone got any advice? Any experience with this kinda thing?
Thank you in advance!
dao

[kitty]

I think you need to figure out what you want, a friendship or a romantic relationship and a friendship. If the friendship part is most important to you, I would wait and let him make the first move, but give him subtle indications that you are interested. If a romantic relationship is your real concern, I would be more forward because you would have nothing to lose. If he is not interested, he will let you know and you can move on and not waste any time. You say you are already dating. I don't know how long this is for, but if he is not giving you indications of something more serious, either he is afraid and has relationship problems (which should be taken seriously because this could signal problems in the future), he has been hurt before and wants to take it slowly (which is fine, but he should let you know), or he is not interested in pursuing this much beyond what it is. Since you seem to want more, I think it is important to find out where you stand now. Plus, my experience has led me to believe that you can generally tell how someone really feels about you. Does he call you all the time and want to see often? Is he open? Does he play games? Do you find yourself waiting by the phone and he does not call?

[dao]

Well, I want a romantic relationship with my friend. I've never felt this way before. Maybe I should wait and see if it's real. He does call and set up plans for our dates several days in advance. He is a very open person and he doesn't play games. I would very much like him to be the one to make the first move, only cause I know how I feel. What kinda things can I do to tip him off that I'm interested? Any suggestions?
dao

[Rev_Charles]

The wording of "don't want to do or say anything" concerns me. If you need to watch what you do or say, you are not being yourself.

Be true to yourself and be yourself. If it is meant to be, the relationship will blossom. If it doesn't, it wasn't.

[darkeyes]

Rev Charles,
You are definately a "cool dude", that advice you just gave is super
"darkeyes"

[lilcoop]

I think you should completely be yourself. If you spend so much time together he must be sending some kind of signals that he really cares for you. Maybe he is nervous to say anything to you, in fear that you won't feel the same way. I think you should go ahead and be up front with him. You say he doesn't play games but this is kind of a game if you don't say how you feel. You aren't being honest, to protect yourself. What do you have to lose? The friendship? You never know, if he doesn't feel the same you may feel like a dork for while but it may strenthen the friendship. Or maybe this could be the greatest thing that ever happens to you. Do something today. Think what a wonderful summer you could have together, physically and emotionally. Go for it!!! This is just my opinion and it DOES NOT make a survey. Good luck and have fun.