[ace333]

I know you always hear it and always told not to compare you relationship to others....but I'm having a hard time....everyone around seems happy and getting married and such....and my bf blames me for everything never lets me have an opinion PR say what I want and talks of how he never wants to get married etc.......how could I not compare my s**t relationships while having dozens of perfect couples in complete bliss all the time. I feel so left out all the time...its very heartbreaking what am I supposed to do or think

[~Christina]

Ummmm Why on earth are you staying with him? What redeeming qualities does he have?

[ChipperMonkey]

While you are wasting time on Mr. Wrong, Mr. Right could walk right by and you'd never even notice.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by ace333

I know you always hear it and always told not to compare you relationship to others....but I'm having a hard time

your having a hard time is a message that you are trying to send to yourself, but the recipient declines delivery because she has this weird idea that she is not to compare her r/s to those of others.

the message is literally screaming in ALLCAPS!

[Trippin2.0]

You're comparing simply because your relationship is not up to par with what YOU want, not because of what others have...


Therefore it cannot be wrong.


Either make peace with the fact that you're actively deciding to settle for less than what you want or move on.

[offthegrid]

OP, if you have expectations and value certain things, it's important that you be on the same page with the person you are with.