[Lost513]

How do we move on from an affair. We have been together for 12 years, and it seems crazy to just walk away. He is trying so hard to make up for what he has done, but I can not move past it. We went to a counseling session today, but the counseler literally said random words, and told us his story. I am like i dont care ask us stuff give us advice help us!!!! I just hate having all these thoughts, and not wanting to even look at him or touch him. There are days I feel everything is normal others I am just like ugh!!!!

[TheWell]

If you want to work through this you need to find a couples therapist who you connect with. I suggest interviewing some more before you settle on this one.

[liveforfish]

It can be done but it takes a lot of work.

[NWgirl2013]

At least your H is In therapy with you & is trying. You & your marriage must means something to him. A different counselor might be able to help you personally. Are you in individual counselling as well?
Mine won't even acknowledge that we need to go. He just wants Me to "get over it" and "pick up where we left off" pre-problems; infidelity, and that very large breach of trust is a very large hurdle to overcome.

I am trapped in a nether-world of pain and don't know how to get out either, so if you get any good advice, please pass it this way.

[ChipperMonkey]

Look for another counselor. Not all are created equally!