[Shily666]

((PLEASE note that I am in a long distance relationship. I live in America while he lives in Australia. That's 9,000 miles apart. There's no way he can be here right now, but he's the only one online and the only one that can help me, but I'm having issues.))

Me and my boyfriend were talking and I was feeling really happy, and I assume he was too. Earlier he had sent me pictures of himself. So, I decided to send him a picture of myself as well. He always loves seeing pictures of me.

Well, he ignored it. And he kept chatting about that X-Box 360 part, which I had no clue what it was or even what to say about it, but I acknowledged that I was reading what he said and looking at the pictures of it. So I asked him why he ignored the picture of, but he only said "Nvm". I asked him again, and this is when I started freaking out. I told him that he has never ignored my pictures, and that it was unusual for him. All he said was the same thing. "Nvm"

My mind began to race, I started crying, my body was shaking, I felt like I was going insane. This wasn't the first time I had felt this way though. More than a year ago, I experienced several mental breakdowns, and they were all godawful and literally made me so insane, I could have been easily submitted into a mental hospital. However, this mental breakdown was not as bad, but it did make me feel very terrible and weak.

He started getting mad at me and told me to shut up about it, that it didn't matter anymore. So I started telling him that he didn't care about my picture, he didn't care about me anymore, that I'm nothing to him. So he told me get away from him, and my emotions got ten times worse.

Just recently he apologized about getting mad at me and for saying all of that mean stuff. But he wouldn't bother to help me, even when he knew I needed a lot. So I was just stuck there crying and shaking, feeling depressed and like I was nothing, that I was worthless. I didn't know what was happening to me, so I only assumed mental breakdown, because that's what it felt like.

I told him that he can help, that he can talk to me until he fell asleep, but he kept refusing and telling me that he can't talk to me, that he's too tired and needed to go to sleep. So, I was lost and struggling and I didn't know what to do. It's only gotten worse. I just wanted it to go away.

If my boyfriend would have helped, my pain would have at least lessened enough to where it wouldn't be so bad, but he's such a jerk and doesn't even bother to help the love of his life. He could care less about me. I really don't care that he apologized, he knew I needed help, and then he calls ME selfish. But he's the selfish one.

[~Christina]

You dont mention in your post if you two have met in real life ? If so, how was the visit ? How long have you been together?

Im not a Doctor but it sounds like your having panic and or anxiety attacks...

Your Boyfriend not wanting to help you feel better is rude and disrespectful and not the way to treat someone you love .. What are the good qualities he has ? Is this common for him to ignore your needs?

Sounds like you may want to talk to a Therapist to help you feel better and learn ways to keep yourself mentally healthy while have a long distance relationship.

Welcome to PC

[ChipperMonkey]

My guess is that you're quite young. If you're having mental breakdowns over a picture, that is not good and I suggest therapy for you as it sounds like you're a bit emotionally unstable. It's not his job to fix you. And yes, you sound a bit emotionally manipulative. Have you been diagnosed with a personality disorder? I ask due to your manipulation and emotional instability.

[Hellion]

hmm sounds like he was being kind of a jerk, but maybe he was just really tired...I don't know I couldn't do a long distance relationship because I wouldn't know how to resolve issues like that or make sense of it. It is weird though if he's usually caring and/or tries to help and was just all the sudden acting all distant, but hard to say what the reasons for that could be.

I mean it could be a panic attack, could just be it really upset you and its nothing to do with any mental problem...or perhaps issues you have make it harder to cope with, but in my opinion seems like he was also being a jerk so don't think its unusual it upset you.

[possum220]

You mention "he's the only one that can help you". Doesn't sound he is like much help at all. Maybe time to find a therapist in real life.

[evahis]

Originally Posted by possum220

You mention "he's the only one that can help you". Doesn't sound he is like much help at all. Maybe time to find a therapist in real life.

I agree. I'm sorry you are going through such a tough time at the moment Shily.

You need to look after yourself as other people can let you down. A therapist is more reliable than a boyfriend

[healingme4me]

I'm confused where the unopened photo equated to him not caring, him not feeling love towards you, him seeing you as nothing to him?

Sometimes, shifting perspectives is necessary. There's a wealth of grayness, when life is busy, etc.

How exactly is he supposed to help, when an unopened photo is a catastrophe, and proof that love is gone?

Nvm, means nevermind? I'm confused how asking if he had seen the photo, nvm was his answer? Sometimes it's easier, to stop, pause, breathe and ask for clarification before jumping to a panic stricken conclusion.