She doesn't get that it creates anxiety for me to call someone on the phone, yet I can accept phone calls without any problems. I tried to explain it to her but it just turned into a semantical argument

[offthegrid]

Some people simply communicate better in person because you can see her body language and it just feels more personal. It's not as if you don't like talking to her (I hope). This isn't something isolated to you, there are many people who feel this way. If you guys are in some sort of close friendship or committed relationship she may thing it's a bit odd but should take your feelings into account.

[IchbinkeinTeufel]

Hah. I'm glad I'm not the only one. It's weird, isn't it? Just the way it is. I think nobody gets it with me, either. >.< Sorry that I can't help, but I do relate!

[hvert]

Could you use this as an opportunity to practice calling someone? Maybe you two could meet half way - you could try to call and she could try to understand?

[Frankbtl]

Hi Illegal, I'm kind of questioning why it's such a big deal for her I mean if you've explained, and it's not like an excuse (because it isn't an excuse!!) not to call her.........could she be a bit insecure, or wants a bit more "attention" in some way?? Something to think/talk about??
Still for now lets say she's wanting to help you with it............and the semantical argument, well sometimes you can completely rationalise something, but that isn't necessarily going to make any difference.
But what might stand just a chance of helping you just a bit?? Perhaps if you texted her more/instead of phoning?? Perhaps if you started with her calling you, telling you she's free, and then you calling her straight back?? Perhaps if you agreed on a very specific time to call?? Perhaps if when you call her she agrees that it's just going to be a very quick conversation about..........something very easy, something very specific, something very quick, just to help you feel a little less anxious about calling??? Maybe agree to try to call her every two/three (??) weeks??? Just a few thoughts.
But then again, if it is still a real problem for you then maybe you both could put the conversation about you phoning/not phoning under the category of agree to disagree. Afterall there has to be a lot more to the relationship anyway.

Alison

All of these are good suggestions and ideas. The issue has gone away again, it just flares up from time to time.

If you text her, asking her to please call you, then she might feel like it's more 50/50...

[bea1990]

You should have just said something like, "For some reason, when I tried to call you, it doesnt ring at all... Can you try calling me instead?" Ive said that a million times and it always works. Lol. It's a lot easier and less annoying than trying to explain yourself.

I hate phones period..
if I could I would get rid of mine .. and just e-mail people .
I hate the rigging sound it triggers me .

[BobbyDavis]

Just tell her you don't like phones.

I personally have no problem talking to people on my mobile phone but I refuse to text because I couldn't be bothered to stuff around with all the tiny buttons. It is easier just to talk to somebody and my Wife, family and friends know to call me.