[PeaceKeeper93]

Hopefully some of you can help me or give me some insight on this situation. Thank you. I am actually scared. This guy I know is friends with my other friends. I am not really friends with him, I'll say his name is "Don". Don has always showed possessive behavior towards me, jealousy and all! It was pretty bad, and that is why I don't talk to him at all. I see him when there are events with friends because my friends are friends with him, but I am NOT. Recently I went to a friend's Birthday party and Don was there. Me and friends were talking and he heard me say how much I liked Ryan. He chimed in and said "Do you want to f*** him?!?!" in an angry tone. I ignored it.

He knew Ryan since he was a child, but he always told me that Ryan is a "douchebag" a "loser" and so many other things bad in his eyes. He doesn't like Ryan and it's as clear as day. Well about 3 weeks later I talked to Ryan and he said he has been talking to Don, and Ryan said something weird "Don was always a little psycho", now I find that a bit strange. I find that strange because Don always had a hatred towards Ryan, now he's talking to him? I am afraid this is stalker behavior, maybe it's not, but I find it so weird that he is talking to someone that he supposedly hates after I said I "liked" Ryan, and I spoke highly of Ryan, but you can clearly tell Don was infuriated and jealous when I was talking about Ryan. Should I be worried? Am I over-reacting? I hope so! I am actually scared because I think he is "buddy buddy" with Ryan now because he's trying to get information out of him about me or something? What do you think? Give me honest comments about this. Thanks so much!

[ifst5]

I think the whole situation is a bizarre example of behaviour you wouldn't expect from regular adult people. At the end of the day, you have no control over the actions of either Ryan or Don - you can only continue your life in the way you see best. If you start to feel threatened by either one of them, you reserve the right to get the authorities involved. If the situation continues in vain, you can always explain to Ryan that you value his friendship and have no intentions towards Don. It might be wise to keep other information to a minimum though so as to see how the situation plays out from there. You shouldn't have to justify any of your feelings or actions but keeping the appropriate people informed of the right info might help them be skeptical of anything they're hearing to the contrary.

I hope this situation doesn't become more major. Good luck.

[curley]

You are right Peace, very strange guy "Don". What is that saying keeping your friends close and your enemies closer. I don't know if I said that right but you get the idea. Im thinking Don will be doing anything to keep Ryan from being close to you. Maybe for Ryans safety you should stay away, but do not let Don know how you feel about anyone, or probably anything. Good luck!!