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Old Apr 05, 2004, 11:09 AM
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I am kind of bummed today. I went over to my now ex girlfriends place and picked up all my stuff. It was really depressing. There was still a picture up of us, I just sat there and looked at it for a while. I also sat on her bed. This may sound wierd but I held her pillow for a bit, as well as a stuffed animal she sleeps with. It smelled like her and for a minute everything was back to the way it was, and we were happy. But then I had to come back to reality. I looked at the picture of us some more and left. As I left, I kissed her picture, and said "I love you and I miss you." I do love her and wished things could have worked out but the time is not right at all. I will miss her, but not the problems and the confusion. Time to move on, the future doesn't wait for a broken heart. Thanks for listening.

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Old Apr 05, 2004, 01:10 PM
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It's good to move on when we know things aren't right. It can be hard when something so good can be so bad. Yet in reverse when you go on with life, something so bad can turn out to be so good! We learn and grow from all our experiences. I wish you the best!

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Old Apr 05, 2004, 03:01 PM
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It turned out good because I am finally able to let my feelings out and I know I want a wife and a family. Right now it seems like it will never happen, but I know it will just take time.

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Old Apr 05, 2004, 03:12 PM
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{{{{{{{{{{{Mike}}}}}}}}}}}

I am sorry you are going through all of this. I am a firm believer that things happen for a reason. All of these things are showing you that you have strength and so much to give to someone. Hold onto that ok?

You will get through this.

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Old Apr 05, 2004, 03:19 PM
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Thanks Heather,

I really appreciate your support as well as everyone elses. I will get through this, and find someone someday. Thanks again.

Mike

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Old Apr 05, 2004, 07:39 PM
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yeah.... sounds like you did it right though, gave yourself a little time to remenisce I think I would have whirled in there and grabbed stuff and left.

Hang in there buddy... make yourself better and right when you least expect it there will be THE girl...

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Old Apr 05, 2004, 07:46 PM
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Thats what they always tell me. "When you least expect it, it will happen." Just hope it happens sooner than later.

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Old Apr 07, 2004, 12:41 PM
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Dear Mike,

Oh the pain it brings, doesn't it? My boyfriend and I broke up last week also. Two years of loving, fighting, sweetness and pain. It brings to mind the words of Kahlil Gibran, the Arabic poet: (shortened for brevity)

_Kahlil Gibran on Love~

" When love beckons to you, follow him,
Though his ways are hard and steep.
And when his wings enfold you yield to him,
Though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you.
And when he speaks to you believe in him,
Though his voice may shatter your dreams as the north wind lays waste the garden.

For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you. Even as he is for your growth so is he for your pruning.
Even as he ascends to your height and caresses your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun,
So shall he descend to your roots and shake them in their clinging to the earth.

All these things shall love do unto you that you may know the secrets of your heart, and in that knowledge become a fragment of Life's heart.

But if in your fear you would seek only love's peace and love's pleasure,
Then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love's threshing-floor,
Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears."

So now we go out into that seasonless world Mike, looking for a new person who will make us laugh, all of our laughter, and cry, all of our tears.

Personally, I'm all "threshed out."

Kisses to you......and a peaceful heart....

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