[ebonieboo68]

Well let me start off by telling you that my mom passed away suddenly in 2012. My sister found her dead one morning. I was devastated. Anyway, I immediately called my high school sweetheart to let him know what happened. I moved away as soon as I graduated and my HS sweetheart remained behind. We've always kept in contact even though I have been married and divorced and I also have 2 sons. One just graduated college the other is in high school. Long story somewhat short, he came to my moms funeral and we started talking again. He came to visit me everyday while I was in town to bury my mom and get her estate settled. (we dated for 3 years but never had sex while in HS. Well once he started coming around, we still didn't have sex. Just heavy petting. My mom died in April and his birthday was in July. I just needed someone to take my mom off my mom's passing and since he was around, I felt like I was in HS all over again. I took him to the mountains for his Birthday in July and we finally had sex for the first time. It was not so good but I was so smitten by him that I just took it for what it was. Well we continued to have lots of sex for months. At the time I was 44 years old. I never thought I would end up pregnant at that age. Well, 4 months later, I was pregnant and he was not so excited. He didn't have kids and I don't think he was planning on having any. (he's really into church) That being said, abortion wasn't an option. I am very religious but not perfect. He began acting kind of strange. We had started to meet halfway between both of our homes. I'm in MD he's in NC so Richmond was a halfway point. He refused to tell his family the whole time I was pregnant. I asked him if he was ashamed. He said no but I think he really was. Really at 46 you are afraid to tell your 80 year old mom that you are going to be a dad. Well anyway the baby comes he tells his family and they are all overjoyed. They gave us a baby shower and showered our son with love. Ok, aside from buying pampers, high chair, crib mattress and a walker, he doesn't help me any. I have our son on my insurance and I buy all his clothes and I pay daycare and take physical care of him when I am not working. Well we have had sex 1 time in the last year. I mentioned this to him and he said he didn't even notice it had been that long. He comes up for 3 days out of every month to spend time with his son and me. (I guess me) He does not touch me at all. We go out to dinner maybe once, and I cook for him most of the time when he is here. He never invites us to his house. I know he lives by himself but I think he is ashamed to let his neighbors see him with a female and a baby. He is very strange. His son has never been to his home. I've been there once. I'm very close to his family and I know he hasn't had a girlfriend in years. His sister says the last one he had cheated on him. Anyway, I changed daycares for my son. He just turned a year but I noticed he was being hit on my the daycare provider's great grandson whom she has custody of . Everyday for a couple of months, I had to tell him that its not nice to hit. Well everyday I would tell him and he would say nothing. I found our son a new daycare. The cost has doubled and I told him that he would have to pay half. He has given me 200.00 and our son has been there for 1 month. Not to mention I had to pay 200.00 security deposit too. I told him tonight that our relationship was going nowhere and I am very unhappy. I also told him that he would hear me complain about the care our son was getting at the old daycare and he wouldn't say one word. He only kept quiet because he is very cheap. We both own our homes, have cars and very good jobs. I have been on my job almost 30 years and I have a six figure salary but I also have 2 minor kids and an adult one who is working part-time until he finds work. (the one who just finished college works part-time) I told him that I am in a relationship where I get nothing. No romance, no sex, no thanks for caring for our son, very little financial help. I've stayed for our son but if I'm not happy, I can't raise a happy son. Its over and his response was "Don't let it end like this". I told him this relationship was over a long time ago. I was just too nice to say anything. It's not normal and I'm sure his family will be disappointed but this is for my sanity. I don' know what's going on with him but I'm not going to stick around to find out. I've know him since I was 16 years old and I can't believe he is this kind of person/dad. There is no future in this. what part doesn't he understand? please help me. I told him he needs to let me know how he wants to pay daycare. I told him not to text or call me anymore. Yes he can see his son whenever he likes but I need him to know and understand I am no longer interested. Sorry for all the info but I want you to understand and please tell me what I already know. I'm not crazy. HElPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP

[catastrophic]

Lots of hugs xox

Leaving a relationship is never easy xox

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[ladytiger]

That reminds me. Someone I know from high school who is in the Army almost broke up my relationship with my boyfriend. We almost had sex 10 yrs ago but I closed my legs on him and we did other things sexually. We came close to having sex recently while he was in town and I got suckered into his charm, sexiness, etc. He saw how I was not happy in my relationship and told me he was in love with me last time I saw him was in 09. He wanted to start over and wanted me to leave my boyfriend for him which almost happen. He started to become pushy towards me for an answer and started seeing his old traits again.

Yea, Army guy saw how I was hurting and we ended up kissing. I knew by how he was acting that he wanted to kiss me and we were hugging getting so close we kissed. Anyway, after seeing his old patterns and he treated our time like dates then he left AZ to go back to TX he started ignoring me all because I didn't give him sex and find out on his facebook that he went to have a late night dinner with another woman!

Bf and I are working on ours. I agree leaving is never easy, I came close to leaving my bf 4 times and this time we are trying to work it out this may be our last and final attempt.

[~Christina]

Your certainly not crazy,

I'm sorry that your having to deal with a messy situation. Best thing to do is get all the financial issues and visitation things in place. You need to set boundaries for yourself when dealing with him.

He needs to be responsible for his son.

I hope you can get everything done quickly and you go about living your life with out him directly in it. Other than what decisions need to be made together for your child.

Good luck