[kelly8896]

I’m single, 46 and my youngest kid is 16. I’m really ready to start dating. I’m home alone most every night and weekend because my daughter is busy with her friends. I joined an on-line dating service and have really had a tough time finding anyone compatible. But I finally met someone and we hit it off. I found out after our 4th date that he had gone out with my twin sister about 2 months ago. This made me feel very awkward and we sat down and talked about it. He seemed sincere in his answers, but I just don’t know for sure. I don’t know him that well yet. He’s been really sweet and we have a good time hanging out. My sister and I have a difficult relationship right now and we don’t speak much. So I don’t want to ask her about it. He said they had gone out only 2 times and she just didn't have the time or didn't want to put forth the time to date him, so it ended. I know that I didn't share a lot of details about my family over the four dates. We talked about my kids, I mentioned I had a twin sister, but never said her name or where she lived. We are twins and look quite a bit alike. People at her part time job can’t tell us apart. So I just don’t know what to think or to do. He said it made him feel awkward too finding this out, we joked a little about it. But he said enjoyed spending time with me and would like to continue to date.

My kids and my sisters kids were talking about this new guy in my life and are the ones that figured out that he had dated my sister. They have only met him once, to say hello. We haven’t spent any time with them. But they have already voiced their opinion that they don’t like him and that they don’t believe him.

My 16 year old daughter is so mad that she wants to start living at her dads. I don’t understand. I've only been seeing him for two weeks, she’s only met him once and seen him twice. It was ok for her dad to have a girl friend while we were married, (yes – he had an affair). He is still with the girl from the affair and she really likes her. But heaven for bid mom date anyone. And because it’s someone that dated her aunt she thinks that’s just awful.

I’m kind of going crazy here. What do I do?

[kaliope]

it really seems unfair the they are treating you the way they are. it is not like you knew he was dating your sister and you certainly didn't steal him away. I would try talking to your daughter to explore deeper what her issues are.

I kind of find this situation fishy on his part. he obviously has a type. but to not comment that you look exactly like someone he just dated especially after you telling him you are a twin seems suspect.

[hvert]

It's not really any of your daughter's business who you date, but maybe her intuition is telling her something here. Have you tried asking her if it is just this guy or you dating at all that's got her so worked up?

I also think this guy is a little fishy. Given everything with your sister, I would drop this one, personally. There are other guys out there. Not that it's any of my business who you date either

[horseshoe2985]

I am so sorry. Can you talk to your daughter about it? have you considered talking to a counselor at all? I will keep you in my prayers!

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Originally Posted by kelly8896

I’m single, 46 and my youngest kid is 16. I’m really ready to start dating. I’m home alone most every night and weekend because my daughter is busy with her friends. I joined an on-line dating service and have really had a tough time finding anyone compatible. But I finally met someone and we hit it off. I found out after our 4th date that he had gone out with my twin sister about 2 months ago. This made me feel very awkward and we sat down and talked about it. He seemed sincere in his answers, but I just don’t know for sure. I don’t know him that well yet. He’s been really sweet and we have a good time hanging out. My sister and I have a difficult relationship right now and we don’t speak much. So I don’t want to ask her about it. He said they had gone out only 2 times and she just didn't have the time or didn't want to put forth the time to date him, so it ended. I know that I didn't share a lot of details about my family over the four dates. We talked about my kids, I mentioned I had a twin sister, but never said her name or where she lived. We are twins and look quite a bit alike. People at her part time job can’t tell us apart. So I just don’t know what to think or to do. He said it made him feel awkward too finding this out, we joked a little about it. But he said enjoyed spending time with me and would like to continue to date.

My kids and my sisters kids were talking about this new guy in my life and are the ones that figured out that he had dated my sister. They have only met him once, to say hello. We haven’t spent any time with them. But they have already voiced their opinion that they don’t like him and that they don’t believe him.

My 16 year old daughter is so mad that she wants to start living at her dads. I don’t understand. I've only been seeing him for two weeks, she’s only met him once and seen him twice. It was ok for her dad to have a girl friend while we were married, (yes – he had an affair). He is still with the girl from the affair and she really likes her. But heaven for bid mom date anyone. And because it’s someone that dated her aunt she thinks that’s just awful.

I’m kind of going crazy here. What do I do?