[mommaxo]

Should you tell them you are pregnant right away? or will that only scare them off, so you should hide the bump and wait for the right time ? are dating websites too trashy for pregnant ladies? seeing how most men go on dating websites for a booty calls/one night stands. Bars are where most single people go. but that isn't really that right environment when your expecting, and looking for something long term. Some people think there's nothing wrong with dating while your pregnant, other's look down on it. Should woman who are pregnant just focus on themselves, and the baby? wait to start dating after the baby is born? How old should your son/daughter be before you bring a man in to the picture? or is the right time to start dating is when your ready to?

I am interested in hearing other people's opinions/views on the matter.

[JoeS21]

I'm not female, but if I were, then my answer to your question would depend on whether you're bump is visible or not. If it is, then I would inform your date before you meet, paying a lot of attention to my words. If the bump is not yet visible, I would say nothing on the first date. If the relationship continues and progresses, then once the relationship reaches a certain point, I would bring it up carefully.

That's what I would do. Good luck!

[ChipperMonkey]

I don't think there is anything wrong with it, but you will likely have a tough time finding someone as you're putting your relationship on a timetable. That is, he will be able to get to know you and have a good time with you up until you give birth, and then much of that goes out the window as your time then goes to being a good mommy. In a way it seems unfair, but as long as you're upfront and honest, there should be no issue. I would do as the other person said and be upfront and honest because if you aren't showing right now its not really fair to get a man invested in you and then a few months down the road say "surprise! I'm preggo!" That would be upsetting news to him and would be playing with his life. Good luck!

[ChipperMonkey]

Ok, scratch that. If you're a love addict, per your other post, now is NOT the time to be dating! You need to be working on yourself first and foremost because it is probably not very responsible to jump into a relationship at this point. Just as I'd tell a drug addict to not be using drugs or an alcoholic to not be drinking, if you're a love addict then stay away. Fix yourself now. If you don't, its just going to be all the harder later on.

[hvert]

I wouldn't do it, personally. Your hormones are going to be so different from what you are used to that the person you are attracted to while you are expecting may not interest you when you have your baby.

[meganmf15]

I think time working on the relationship with your baby's father would be better than dating.

[allme]

IMHO I really don't think it's a good idea to start dating someone new while pregnant. But if you really must, then I would say 2nd date is the time to tell him. Hmm you see now I am 50/50 whether you should tell him on first date....but anyway, definitely would tell him as soon as is appropriate.

Really though, I don't think dating anyone other than the father is a good idea...not to mention protecting your baby from STD's!

[nicoleflynn]

I would focus on yourself and the baby......where is the father?

[Trippin2.0]

My views?

As with most things in life, it depends on the individual and or individual circumstances. And my view will be dependent on these factors...


If this was your first thread, and I knew absolutely nothing about you and your circumstances, I would relay the story of how I had a wonderful FWB setup for the duration of my pregnancy.


But, since I've read more than just your bio, I would have to go with nooooo, please don't date while you're pregnant, focus on yourself and the baby you have growing inside of you.


What you've described, especially in your love addict thread, does not make for a healthy and happy pregnancy, or post natal period, as you will most likely be losing yourself inside a relationship, involved with a man who's not good for neither you nor your baby...


Stick to your original plan as outlined in your bio. Focus on healing and learning to love yourself, instead of trying to find someone to kill the loneliness and provide you with the emotional security and self -confidence you crave.


You can depend on yourself for these things instead of attempting to get a man to provide them for you.


Pregnancy should be as smooth as possible, please don't go looking for drama. It wont be healthy for the baby, and your baby is your number 1 priority right now.

[catastrophic]

I wouldn't date, not that there is anything wrong with it... For me personally I would just be concentrating on myself and the baby that your soon to meet. I would t want a new stranger to be apart of that or take time away from me getting to know my son or daughter.

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[mommaxo]

there is no relationship to be worked on with the father.

[indygerry]

perhaps an important question you may want to ask yourself is what are you looking to get out of dating new people?

there may be some important revelations that come with identifying what emotions or motivations underlie your desire to date.

[hamster-bamster]

If there were a good guy on the horizon, right now and already, then you could be weighing the pros and cons. Because if it is something valuable in the long run, there would be a benefit in developing a relationship right now so that once the baby is born, the man could basically be his father.

Since there is no good guy on the horizon and you are talking bars or dating sites, then the answer is a resounding no (so I am joining the chorus here).

Hopefully, you will get the nesting bug soon and your energy will be focused on making preparations for the arrival.