Yesterday my sister threatened to tell Facebook I have a mental illness.

She physically attacked me a month ago and I have not been able to afford to move out but I've not spoken to her since and because I recently started a new job I am not home most of the day and never alone with her.

Yesterday a friend of hers came to our apartment bleeding profusely after a bout with her mom. My mom patched my sister's friend up and listened as the friend exclaimed "my mom is not like you, she's a failure. She told me she hates me. She has never been there for me like you are for your kids." My mom replied " you don't know how I am with my kids." I chimed in and said " yeah, you don't know my mom." My intention was to let the friend know that all families have something and that she is not alone.

The friend left to go talk to a relative about the incident and then my sister came out of the room yelling " you embarrassed mom by saying my friend doesn't know her [implying that mom is a bad mom too]. I told my sister that if she got any closer to me I would call the cops.

My mom intervened on my sister's behalf and said i should move to where I would be happy. This as I pay her rent because she is unemployed - as is my sister.

Towards the end of her rant my sister said " you have a mental illness and I'm going to tell people you've been lying about it."

I felt fearful after that remark because she posts about me on Facebook and I work in a reputation based industry.

I want to get a restraining order but we live in the same place and I truly cannot afford even a room. I don't know what to do.

Any advice would help me, greatly.

[doyoutrustme]

How much weight would that have when she says it? It sounds like she is the type of person who people wouldn't take seriously.

She might be believed by some but it might seem odd to others because I've always spoken so highly of her on Facebook.

[hannabee]

Maybe you post some kind of apology before she discredits you??? Something like "oops, I sure said something about my Mom that came out the wrong way! Hope she knows how much I love her!! Open mouth...insert foot lol " IDK just a thought.

[doyoutrustme]

Your sister is suffering from MI too, she just doesn't deal with it. You are a successful, responsible person, and the only person who is going to sound crazy if she posts that is her. I would ignore it if I were you, and if she posts it, flag it as abuse.

Originally Posted by doyoutrustme

Your sister is suffering from MI too, she just doesn't deal with it. You are a successful, responsible person, and the only person who is going to sound crazy if she posts that is her. I would ignore it if I were you, and if she posts it, flag it as abuse.

I think you are right. She also said " I have longer hair than you, more friends and I look better." We are not children. We are in our twenties. She always had complaints about me growing up and everyone. That she's so invested in looking better than me is sad but it's always been an issue for her. She is significantly larger than me, had bad acne and struggled with hair problems growing up. I was pretty popular and always had longer hair, never contended with acne and was fit. The same is still true. I never once compared us but she always has. I may have looked great on the outside but anxiety has tortured me for practically my whole life. What she thought/thinks has been a bed of roses has been a hellish existence filled with mental anguish - made worse by physical abuse from my mother early in life and now my younger sister.

[~Christina]

I would not pay it much attention, If she posts something, Don't argue just toss in an LOL yeah families are a hoot or something. then why not just Block her ?

Facebook Drama fades quickly when no one argues back.

I hope it all blows over if she does even follow through on the threat.

[hvert]

Yeah, I think if she starts posting stuff like that, people will just assume that she's the one who has a problem, especially if you ignore it.

You can report her to Facebook when it happens, too. I would try to stop worrying about it until it happens.