[mentos12]

I am not sure what to do . i have been with my bf for 2 years. he treates me well but i am having a couple issues / doubts and im not sure what to do. First of all i have a higher education and he just finished high school. I dont notice most of the time but sometimes he spees incorrectly and says things like " we was doing this" instead of we were doing this and it really bothers me. he is very into business however which does not bother me as long as hes financially stable. on top of the he is a little more into religion than i am .I do not want my chldren to be religious and he wants them to believe in god. aside form that everything is perfect. he treats me well our parents like one another. i do not know if this is something worth breaking up with someone over.

[gloamingone]

I've been in that situation before, with my ex-husband. Poor grammar, good career, religious. Meanwhile, I was highly educated and was NOT religious. We'd get into fascinating religious discussions all the time (not arguments, just cordial discussions).

It eventually became a platonic relationship. Sadly, it was after we'd married. Needless to say, it ended in divorce. We are still close friends, though. In fact, he's currently my ONLY friend. We've been happily co parenting our children since 2002.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, don't give up. Yes, he may have different beliefs than you, and his education isn't as strong, but if he's a good man, those things can be overlooked. Next time the poor grammar tears its ugly head, remind yourself that's just how he talks and has no bearing on the quality of his character. When religion comes up, try to be accepting of his beliefs. Compromise is always a possibility. My ex and I decided that our kids could attend church with him, but I was allowed to encourage them to be open to other possibilities.

You may find that your love for him cools after a while, or you might discover that your acceptance of him grows stronger once you put your own judgments on the back burner.

I wish you the best of luck in sorting this out. I know it's not easy!

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[Yoda]

The most difficult part would be the religion. If you cannot see raising kids with him because of that it would be enough to end the relationship IMO.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by mentos12

I am not sure what to do . i have been with my bf for 2 years. he treates me well but i am having a couple issues / doubts and im not sure what to do. First of all i have a higher education and he just finished high school.

I am sorry - I am having trouble understanding the meaning of "just" in this sentence.

Is he somebody who finished high school some time ago and does not plan to go on to getting a degree at all?

Or is he somebody who just recently got his GED (high school equivalence diploma - I am not sure it is a national term or California-only) and eventually plans to pursue higher education?

[~Christina]

Just an observation, there are a few grammar issues in your post.

Hamster brought up a good question... Has he just finished high school? or completed a GED? Does he intend to go to college?

Religion or non religion when it comes to any children you may have can be a deal breaker for couples.

Think long and hard about this relationship.

I wish you the best.