[purplemystery]

I think I made the wrong dating move after my first date last night. I texted him "Thank you again for dinner! I had a great time getting to know you and I'd love to meet up again sometime. " He texted back "Thanks for coming out! I had a great time too! " It was one of the best first dates I've ever been on. We connected and had a few things in common, and it seemed like he enjoyed himself too because he extended the date for coffee. But when we said goodbye he didn't say "I'll call you" or "I had a great time," so I'm not sure it went as well as I thought.

I should have made my text more personable ("I'm still cracking up over your _____ story."). Maybe I shouldn't have put so much pressure on it by saying I wanted to meet up... He didn't technically say the same. It's now the morning and I haven't texted him back yet. What should I say??

[Altered Moment]

I think your text was fine.

I would wait awhile and see if he texts you.

Best thing to do is wait until he ask you on another date , that way you will know if he really wants to see you again .

[nymphea]

Your text was great. And you're lucky that he even responded lol. I've had first dates, texted the guy, and never got even a simple response to a text! Sick world we live in. Anyway, I hope it all goes well for you.

[purplemystery]

Thanks everyone! I didn't mention that I think he may have been bummed when I told him that I never went to a party in college, though I do drink occasionally. He seemed a bit taken aback, even though the rest of the date went really well. So maybe he thinks I'm very proper, and he had a good time but is a little iffy about me. In that case, do you think I should try to show him that I'm still fun by saying that we should go dancing/out for drinks or something this week?

I wouldn't unless it's group date , let the man chase you

[ChipperMonkey]

I agree, let him chase you. If he's interested, he'll ask you out again. If not, then it wasn't meant to be. (Men are the chasers, so let them chase!)

[soccerdad]

Originally Posted by ChipperMonkey

I agree, let him chase you. If he's interested, he'll ask you out again. If not, then it wasn't meant to be. (Men are the chasers, so let them chase!)

Poor advice. If your interested then pursue him. Sometimes both people are waiting for the other person to act and then nothing develops and you lose out on a good thing. To assume one person in any situation has a defined role based on gender is extremely sexist on a personal note.

Well, you have already expressed that you would like to see him again.

I think your text to him was perfect.

Perhaps, in a couple of days, you could text him and ask how he's doing....

[scorpiosis37]

I would leave it alone. If he's interested, he'll ask you for another date. If not, he won't and there isn't anything you can do about it. Sending more texts will not change his mind.

[ptangptang]

Despite the fact that ' he may have been bummed' means something totally different in the Uk; i won't elaborate but you can guess ( would have been an unusual date if that were the case-'you'll never guess what happened to me in the toilet' ( do you say restroom haha, very coy) your text was fine. You are thinking too much. Give it 3 or 4 days and then text him.