[Nat92]

I'm finding myself utterly confused once again, no surprise there.

We agreed to try again, no expectations and no promises and we agreed to work on getting closer. We've been doing our best, both of us, to stick to those two agreements and things have been great.

But now, I feel like I'm standing in a tornado, ripping up all the roots we've set.

Over the last week, we've come clear with some things, good things but last night I was thrown.

He's been talking a lot about what he wants and he says he wants a future with me, I'm okay with that idea but I kept reminding myself and him where we exactly are.

We're not together and I imagined we had a long way to go before any commitments could be made. Reality is we live far away from each other and given our past, we couldn't possible maintain a relationship at this distance.

So, last night we started discussing this and he said that he wants a relationship and that we're practically already in one, except from the fact that I need to show things have changed.

Now, for someone who just a shy 3 months ago went "I can't see us getting back into a relationship" to saying we're in one?! And I have done my part to remind him where we are and where we're not, yet he says he doesn't see an issue because well, it was a relationship I wanted, right?

No! I made it clear 10 times I didn't want a cliche romantic relationship, but that I wanted something closer to a partner ship. A friendship, where we allow each other to grow and where we don't expect all those cliche Hollywood things.

And again, we just started working on this.

So why is he suddenly diving head first into shallow waters, talking about everything he said he wouldn't do just a few months back?

I replied this morning to everything he said last night and I made it clear that where we both are right now, there's no place for any such relationship and that the distance just makes me "an online girlfriend" which he said he didn't want.

I'm still just overly confused and amazed by his brazen ideas of who we are and where we are, because I'm certainly not there with him and I was the one who wanted to get back together.

How ironic.

[jelly-bean]

It sounds like the two of you need to have another serious talk. There is a major misunderstanding here and it needs to be ironed out. I hope that you both can figure out what is best for both of you whether it is together or apart.

[Nat92]

Well, he just said he "never said otherwise" - so, I guess I'll be headed the other way until he stops telling me I'm overthinking and feels ready to talk.

Men sometimes...

[Crazy Hitch]

Maybe he "thinks" or "verbalises" things a bit differently.

Maybe he has had a change of heart in the last 3 months.

Maybe he does see things differently.

But regardless of what label status you put on your relationship its about interacting and how you treat one another on a level that is acceptable to both partners that's important.
Don't do anything you're not comfortable with.

[Nat92]

Originally Posted by Hooligan

Maybe he "thinks" or "verbalises" things a bit differently.

Maybe he has had a change of heart in the last 3 months.

Maybe he does see things differently.

But regardless of what label status you put on your relationship its about interacting and how you treat one another on a level that is acceptable to both partners that's important.
Don't do anything you're not comfortable with.

Well, I just feel beyond stupid when I want to bring something up and I feel that maybe I should keep what I want to say 99% of the time to myself. I feel comfortable with him and he treats me well, it's just that maybe he doesn't want to hear all these things.

I'm not even being negative. It's common things like my interests, political views, things I hear on the TV. I've tried to connect with him more before, but it didn't stick. He doesn't seem all that interested in connecting these ways...

So I don't really know what to do ;s