Skip Holiday Visit to Inlaws - Is That Bad?

Thanks you guys! Down.and.Out, I am going to remember some of your strategies for next year. Your in-laws remind me of my boyfriend's brother -- hoarder house to the point that I was tempted to burn the bedding and clothing we had brought into the house. He visited them earlier this year and I opted out since he vetoed the hotel.

It wound up not being as miserable as it has been in previous years. We only spent two nights at his parents. We both thought that his father was sober for our entire visit. His mother did not do her usual guilt trip trying to get us to stay longer.

We took them out to eat instead of cooking and left his father at home to go out with his mother. Overall they were irritating but not maddening. His father especially seemed much, much older.

I do think I will opt out next year or veto the idea of driving the additional two hours to visit his college buddy. We wound up taking two days to get back home.