[EJ711]

Does anyone else have a husband who pouts?

I can't seem to get it through my husband's head that I don't have time to play with him right now. This probably sounds funny.

I teach economics at a community college on a part-time basis. I just got off Spring Break, and since I chose not to do a lot of work over break, need to bare (spelling ?) down now, and get some things done.

Someone gave us two beautiful horses at the beginning of the month. Husband is dying to go get a saddle for the younger horse, who the previous owners said we could ride.

We don't have the money right now to buy a saddle, and the place where they have this kind of stuff is 30 mins. away. Bottom line is we don't have the money to waste on gas either, b/c husband is not working!!!!!!!

Please anyone with a husband who pouts, please post or PM me. I'm so tired of living with a three-year old!!

EJ

sorry you feel like this. i have one of those too. cant do anything without sulking or being angry at the moment. he has no idea how to treat my 2 teens, they find him unapproachable and uncaring.

he too is like a kid at times.

let em get on with it

jin xoxox

[EJ711]

Jinny Ann,

Thanks for sharing.

I always feel so much better, when I know I'm not alone, but I'm sorry you are dealing with the same issues.

Hugs,

EJ

[Perna]

I pout :-) but I'm the wife. If I had the tables turned, I'd give him a "task" like figuring out a creative way to "get"/save for a saddle? That should channel his energies. If he gets an allowance or is in charge of some expense (food/cooking is good) that can be cut back or maybe he can start saving household change (I use to get at least $15-$20 a month and use it to buy a pizza or, a couple times, decided I'd buy a savings bond every month for 5 years then give the stack to my husband as a "present" :-) I was always coming up with "schemes" to get what I wanted; I buy a lot of books so I'd "trade" my husband no book buying for a couple months if I could have an equivalent-amount item I wanted more at that moment.

Treat him like a kid you're teaching economics to :-) How would you teach a kid about the value of money and how to get what he wanted and to make money decisions? Tell him sure, he can have the saddle if he gives up eating for a month :-) Are there any "trade" magazines with used saddles for sale, etc? Maybe he can have a yard/garage sale or trade the store some sales/cleanup/some other kind of work time for a saddle in lieu of salary?

[Wants2Fly]

Hi there -- Yes, I have experienced this. It's a fine way to guilt us into doing what he wants.

[EJ711]

Perna,

I appreciate your thoughts, but my husband is really clueless about money. He was abandoned at birth, and didn't receive early nurturing. He wasn't adopted until he was six months old, and was most likely in an orphanage. He has Reactive Attachment Disorder, and likes to create chaos, and emotional drama.

EJ

there are so many unused saddles setting around in Kansas that he could have his pick. people buy and sell horses like other pets that they find out they don't want......craig's list would be a good place to look. i betcha he can find a free one.......if he's not too childish to want a new fancy one...........pat

i thought of something else. tell him to ride the horse bareback and develop his buttock and leg muscles........

[bebop]

I too was going to suggest a used one. look in the news papers around there. I am sure you can find a decent one in kansas. tell him to grow up!

[sunrise]

I agree, have him get a secondhand saddle or borrow one shortterm from a neighbor or acquaintance with horses. When I had horses, I had several saddles and would have been glad to loan one out for a month or so.

Also, I agree with the bareback suggestion. I rode bareback all the time. The main problem, especially as we enter spring, is you get lots of hair on your pants, but, c'est la vie.

Pouting--can you talk to him about his behavior? Maybe he doesn't realize he's doing it? Sometimes it can help if the discussion comes from someone other than the wife. Like if a best buddy notices it too and brings it up.

[EJ711]

Wants2Fly,

You got it!!

EJ

[EJ711]

Pat,

Thanks for the Craig's List tip!

What makes you say he is childish -- LOL?

Hugs,

EJ

[EJ711]

Pat,

What a hoot about developing his muscles!!!

EJ

[EJ711]

Bebop,

I told him he was acting like a three-year old -- does that count?

Hugs,

EJ

[EJ711]

Sunrise,

He needs to get a job -- more than he needs to be riding a horse.

EJ

if he worries about hair on his pants, let him ride naked.

[EJ711]

Fayerody,

Thank you for the laugh!!

Hugs,

EJ

[nothemama8]

I got a 31 yr married pouty they never change
can I watch the nakie bareback rider hahahahahaha

i was hoping for a video in this thread...........

[Crystal88]

My boyfriend used to pout until one day I had my nephew with me and he saw my boyfriend pouting on the couch after I had picked up my nephew from school. My nephew walked over to him and told him "if you want to pout take it to your room the rest of us did not have to be awarded his bad attitude and rudeness in return for our accepting the fact that life is not fair and we can't always get what we want"

LOL my boyfriend looked at him and started laughing and appologized to him for being rude and awarding his my nephews) good behavior with his (my boyfriends) bad behaviour.

Out of the mouths of children does the wonders never cease.

[EJ711]

Crystal88,

What a priceless story!

Thank you for sharing.

Hugs,

EJ

[Juliana]

I have never been married, but I have had many pouting boyfriends. The one I lived with for quite a few years was the champion pouter. Here's a pouting story about him:

One morning, he was getting ready to go to the recording studio (he was a soundtrack composer). He was doing music for a children's show and was going to use a frying pan for a cowbell sound. LOL. He was getting ready, in a sulky mood for some reason or other, and when I asked if I could help him with anything, he sullenly said, "No!" So I just left him alone.

So, a few minutes later, he came into the bedroom and said to me, "The frying pan is dirty and I don't have time to wash it. Can you wash it for me?" Well, I guess I rolled my eyes at him. That made him pout and stomp out the door. I washed the damn frying pan (rolling my eyes the whole time). He came back inside and asked me if I wanted a drive to work, so I went out to the car with the frying pan in tow. Once I closed my door, he picked up the frying pan, opened his door, put it on the pavement, closed his door, and put the car in reverse. So, I jumped out of the car, ran around to get the frying pan and jumped back in the car with it. This sequence of events repeated itself numerous times... him putting the frying pan on the pavement, and me getting it and putting it back in the car... over and over again... I asked him WHY he didn't want to take the frying pan and he said it was because I had rolled my eyes at him and that hurt his feelings. I reminded him that he NEEDED the frying pan for the cowbell sound and the only reason I rolled my eyes is because he had refused my help EARLIER. Eventually, I ended up throwing the frying pan way in the back of the station wagon where he couldn't reach it without getting out of the car and we were running late, so I won. But of course he pouted during the entire drive and was still pouting when I got home that night.

[EJ711]

Juliana,

Great story!!!

I'm glad you ditched this guy!

I love the part about using the frying pan as a cow bell.

Hugs,

EJ

[Juliana]

I'm glad too! Breaking up was the best thing that could have happened for both of us. We broke up almost 8 years ago and we have been best friends ever since. I've told him he should hire himself out as a professional ex-boyfriend because he's so good at it. He's a lousy boyfriend, but a wonderful ex.

[Odd_Fred]

Tell him to watch some sports on TV. That's too bad You have to deal with such a ......3yo