[Turok]

So I'm trying to deal with two of my grandparents. I'm their favorite grandson. They are always trying to invite me over with lame excuses like. We made dinner for you and other things. When I come over to them. They constantly try to push me to eat more than I want to. I don't have a weight problem and I'm also not a kid anymore. This being "pushy" can almost be found in every interaction. When I'm about to leave. They push me to stay and sleep over although they know I don't want to. Or they push me to accept my grandfather's wish to drive me home although I repeat multiple times I want to walk and get some fresh air. How do heck do I deal with this people? It is really getting to me. I can't scream or get angry because they are my grand parents. I try to explain everything nicely and calmly but they are being persistent in their requests. It is like they only care about themselves although they pretend they care about me. They always want things done their way even if it my choice.

[jelly-bean]

It sort of sounds to me like your grandparents are lonely and want the pleasure of your company. You are a bright spot in a very quiet life and you give them a reason to get up in the morning. I can say this because I am a grandmother and I know what my grandkids mean to me. Please be patient with them and try to understand.

[tallulahxoxo]

I'm sorry you feel pushed around.. Maybe try to laugh it off and make jokes?
I miss my grandparents. (X
They probably are realizing that death is just around the corner for them, and really love you.
They could also be really bored, in which case you could suggest some clubs/activities?

My mother is like that and no matter how much I yell or scream at her she will not change , it's you that has to change because they wont .

[hvert]

A lot of grandparents are just like that. Just keep telling them no politely and try not to let it rattle your cage when they keep insisting. It must be good practice for something, although I am not sure what.

My mother's mother was like that and I found it very annoying when I got to be a teenager, but it was still nicer to have a grandmother who cared than my other grandparents, who never even let us sit anywhere besides their kitchen because they thought we would mess up their house!

[Open Eyes]

Hi Turok, welcome to PC. Tell me, how old are your grandparents? It could be that they are just lonely and your visits with them give them something to think about. I have noticed that my own parents do this now too, a lot of older people do that, want to over please like that so you will come back and visit again because they love having your company. Patience and graciousness is key.

[wolfgaze]

Turok I think if you start asserting yourself in a polite manner and following through with your own intentions - it will only feel challenging initially but it will become easier and more comfortable as you move forward.

In other words you can stick to your guns and politely decline these things that your grandparents try to insist on and force on you. Don't take it personal that they are acting in such a manner, and if they feel discouraged or let down as a result of you standing up for yourself, that's only a reflection of them needing to have more realistic expectations of you and to respect your independence more. They very well may get the 'hint' once you start doing this and they'll ease up on their behavior.

So try being more assertive in the face of pushy demands - but do it with maturity, respect, and politeness. Look at it as a game or challenge. Your objective is to preserve your independence and maintain your composure in the face of these 'challenges'.