[Roscopuppy1]

Hi, I need folks help......

I have worked in a family business for almost 40 years with Dad, Mom at short period and 2 sis's, both younger and recently retired(somewhat forced out) by the sis's and new owners and since then I can do NOTHING RIGHT by my family...

What to do?

I put 110% of my life in the family business, while sis's got married, had babies, breast cancer, divorces(I spent 5 years with my Dad) defending one sis's while she stuck her head in the sand all that time for her benefit and keeping the so called (family farm). Eventually we won, if you want to call 5 years of life/stress and alot of $$$ for attorneys, WINNING?

Now I can do nothing correct and the youngest's son is now in the business, completely un-professional in dress and applying himself for a profitable career, and li'l sis is carrying him as well as bigger sis and Mom. He can do NO WROING and I shouldn't voice my opinion about anything, even when hne steals from me and lies to me and the family about his actions. They have probably spent well over $45k to help fix up the "old family" house we all grew up in and he has helped and spent $$ also, but recently, he has truned on me also.

I am building a bldg. and recently he's stolen bldg. materials from my place, borrowed and never returned stuff, so I go down the hill to the "old home place" and retrieve it and all his video camera's catch me taking back MY stuff and now the family says I am snooping and barred from the property that I grew up on/in. He's put up no trespassing signs, keep flood lights on 24/7 and checks his video cameras/computer daily...

Well YEH, I am snooping, when I don't know where he put/left MY stuff and have to walk all around to find it! If that is your definition of snooping, when he will not return stuff and steals stuff....

It has come to the point that I don't converse with any of them anymore, no Christmas, Thanksgiving, etc as there are always arguement s that come up and DRAMA and I am sick of it. it just isn't worth it. I am told that I have it "out for the nephew", but I don't but there is a generational difference and family is giving him stuff on a silver platter for free and he feels "entitled" I guess to anything he wants??

I have already given him approx. 40 hrs. of my new front-end loader time, for which the contractor busted out a $700 glass doors, bent the bucket all to pieces and dropped rock on the hood dewnting it all up, with NO repairs being made/paid for or offered. That is 40 hrs x $80. an hr. =$ 3200.00 minimum, but I haven't helped his cause or home place fix up[ at all? Am told that I shouldn't let people BORROW, unless of my free will and not requiring/requesting ANYTHING of those that borrow? REALLY?

I was brought up that if you borrow and break it, YOU FIX IT or buy a new one for the owner of the borrowed equipment. Seems the family has forgotten Dad's words of widom, rest his soul!! I think he would be appalled at the way I am treated if he were alive, but he never did really want to get involved in the emotions and DRAMA between me and the females, so let them SLIDE in work big time...

Now that I quit/was fired or whatever and retired, it seems that NOW, they finally figured out how MUCH I ran and ADDED to the family business and now they are going to work early and getting home late, when I used to be the only one to do that.

NOW, I AM AT FAULT FOR ALL THEIR PROBLEMS, I'VE ABANDONED THEM, I have more money than them and I have more free time than them and it is all MY FAULT????

Now, I bing drink occasionally, (they didn't pour it down my throat) but I assure you, part of it was due to long working hours/their divorce, being single and putting up with them over the years, while they seemingly danced through life getting what they desired, except for recent divorce/cancer.

So NOW I am a DRUNK, (ok, I accept that to some degree) but NOW, I am CRAZY!!! I wonder why my friend found me this site to sign onto?

I am NOT CRAZY and my only BAD thing is drinking too much on occassion, usually after a BIG arguement with them. I have divorced myself from the family and their spouses and no longer stop by, visit or step foot on their property, ALL within 1/4 mile away from my house on the Mtn.

Your thoughts?

Drinking is never the answer ,channel your energy into something positive . Don't let them destroy everything you work for .

[Rose3]

Sounds like you maybe feel angry and frustrated.
What kinds of things would you like to change?

You could always be diplomatic it helps alot .