[tyranover]

I'm just going to jump into this.

Over the holidays, I get to see a lot of my immediate family. My family consists of my Mom, a brother, and two sisters (my Dad passed away from a brain tumor). All of my siblings have moved out and are attending college/working. I'm the only one left living at home, because I'm the youngest by three years. The rest of my siblings are 2 years and closer. Today, all three of my siblings were in town. And it was hell. Since I'm the youngest of my family, all of my siblings are used to me being less educated, less opinionated, and less likely to be correct. However, This isn't true anymore.

So here's my issue: They still treat me like I'm a kid that doesn't know what he's talking about and that bugs the HELL out of me. This combined with my Bi-polar disorder, is a disaster. After a day of almost constant corrections, mos of which were incorrect, I was ready to throw a right hook at my brother and cuss out my sisters. Which I really don't want to do.

And here's where you guys come in. How do I break this role that my siblings keep on forcing me into? I'm at wits end, and I might just snap if I don't figure out how to rid myself of this role.

Any help is appreciated

[sideblinded]

((tyranover))

I certainly hear you loud and clear. You sound very educated and very smart. You explained your situation well and you sound very level headed about it.

I have a little story for you. Here is the sad thing that you may have to accept. I was 22 (now I am 57) and my mom still grabbed my hand when we crossed a street. She couldn't help it. I know you are speaking about your siblings here. It is the same concept. They probably won't change their opinions because you will always be the younger sibling BUT that doesn't mean that you are inferior in any way. You are the only one who can know that you are mature. They may get it much later in life. You have to know within yourself that you are not so young and that you have good things to add.

I hope this helps in some small way. Believe in your own abilities apart from their actions. This is when you really mature.

[Koko2]

The assigned role of family village idiot cannot be readily shrugged off if you've been tagged as "it". The best plan may be to move away and create some space. Meantime, just be content in your own mind that you really know as much as them, if not more. I get "corrected" by siblings too, and it's annoying.

[Angelique67]

I'm also the youngest in my family and unfortunately, that pattern of being looked down on never went away (it got worse). And I'm 56. So as the other posters wisely said, try to put some space between you and your patronizing siblings, and become secure in yourself, at least as much as possible.

[tyranover]

Thanks everyone. I'll try to get some space between me and my siblings. I appreciate the help!