[girlsgroup]

I broke up with my boyfriend of 19 months a month ago. I found out about 5 months ago that hr cheated on me and the girl got pregnant, we broke up. Then he begged for me back saying he was so sorry and he loved me and it was a one time mistake etc. I took him back but asked if he was sure he didn't want that girl. He claimed no. Anyway I never felt secure after that. Eventhough he kept reassuring me by spending more time with me and my kids and telling me whenever he saw his child etc. So I tried very hard to believe him. We were making plan for him to meet my family and vice versa. So he came over and I checked his phone which I never do and found out he was lying and was in a relationship with the baby's mom. I ended ours right away. I told the girl what he did to us both. She didn't believe me and he (while on 3-way) completely denied ever being with me. She was with him 9 years and claimed they lived together. He spent so much time with me like sleeping at my house and I was at his too. I just told them good luck I'm done. But I'm still hurting. Hurting that he denied this and that he never apologized. Not necessarily that its over. I'm glad its over he was a liar. But I'm hurt. I haven't contacted him since nor has he contacted me. How do I just move forward?

[toolman65]

Imagine how it is for the other woman. She has a kid with him. Dealing with him until the baby is grown. Assuming he sticks around, that is.

You, on the other hand, got off "easy". At least you have freedom. Use it. Get out there, meet new people, try new things, connect with past friends. Whatever you do, do not isolate yourself. Rejoice in your lucky escape!

[girlsgroup]

Thanks. I'm very social actually. I have good friends who have been there for me. But I was in love and he was a big part of my life. I hate that I didn't see his lies until now. I do feel sorry for the other girl. Because I've been where she is with my children's father years ago, a situation I also left. But she clearly didn't believe what I told her. And I told her if I knew about him and her I would have never been involved with him or stayed with him. I told him I'd never ever contact him again because I don't do cheating or lying and he did both.

[~Christina]

I'm sorry you have been hurt like this... I would say just take care of you, remind yourself that "he" was just a horrible person that could put on an act to fool people, I'm sure you are not the first nor last , so keep busy.

One thing I would advise is see your Doctor for STD testing, just to make sure your okay physically

[girlsgroup]

Christina, thanks I have seen my doctor I made an appointment right away and I thank my lucky stars I'm all clean.