Hey I have this friend, who I am starting to drift away from due to how he acts. He thrives on drama, not happy without it. He blows things out of proportion and then gets mad when he says there is drama. If he sees someone he dislikes, he will go on for minutes talking about how bad of a person they are and how he wishes they would vanish. And scary enough, he has something bad to say about everyone, even his best friend or other friends. Bet you any money he talks about me behind my back. I no longer feel close to him and decided to pull away from him. I am friends with another girl that is insecure about herself and he made her upset because she has a crush on a international student and he does not like them, he is very racist and judgemental. So he proceeded to tell her that they would only like her for a green card, so they can stay or to use her, which is not true. She just got over a break up so I think what he did was really rude since that really upset her. He also claims to have Asperger's but it is not a good excuse to be an a**hole to others and bring people down. He also ignores her anytime she brings up her ex or just needs to vent about something. He is also very self-centered, always talks about how good looking and beautiful he is, yes, he claims to be very beautiful. He likes other women so I doubt he is gay. Maybe bi. It drives me crazy though that he does nothing but complain about others, yet he gets mad if someone else complains about something different. I feel like this is someone I should no longer associate with. I think he secretly feels insecure so he back stabs everyone to bring himself up. He is very hypocritical. Just need to know how to approach him from now on every time he comes over to start complaining about others. I told him to stop once and he didn't. Maybe for a few minutes but then he started talking about someone different. Always someone he has to talk trash about. Just not sure how to handle him now.

[gayleggg]

Here is something I found on dealing with drama queens. It sounded like good advice.

1 Learn to recognize if the person is a drama king or queen (dk/dq). The person is usually very social, manipulative, self-centered, selfish, and always wants to be the center of attention. Prepare in advance to defend yourself against anything.

2 Realize that it is not you who has the problem. Dk/Dq's are prone to place blame on others rather than face their own flaws. It is not your job to fix all their problems. Do not become their enabler! This is bad for you and for them because they learn to depend on you way too much and you will begin to feel like a slave.

3 Know that they will try anything to get what they want. Their philosophy is: There is no bad attention. If the proper way of getting what they want does not work, they will try anything, including starting a fight with you.

4 Learn that tantrums are a dk/dq's best friend. They will throw a fit whenever something does not go their way. Be prepared to deal with tantrums. The best thing you can do is ignore them. Walk away. Do not let them pull you back into the situation. If they attack you verbally, just say, "Whatever". Drama kings and drama queens absolutely hate to be ignored.

5 Note that you have the right to tell them that you do not like their behavior. Let them know in no uncertain terms that their dramatic behavior will NOT be tolerated, or you will terminate the relationship if it continues.

[hvert]

I would keep trying to avoid him and continue to actively refuse to listen to his complaints. If he complains despite you telling him to stop, walk away or give absolutely no response at all.

[Bumblebuzz12]

I would stand up for the people he's talking about. Don't necessarily tell him he's wrong because that'll just start something new. Let him see the good side of the people he's talking about. Try to change the subject when he talks about people. Remember, if people know that he talks about people and they see that he's hanging out with you that could possibly give you a bad rep. Try to stay away from what he's saying whether it's true or not. Good luck