[Jenni855]

To always be the one who is thought about last and everyones second option? Also to have many people treat you indifferently? I always find that I am less cared for and acknowledged then others. I am so kind and caring but it always gets thrown back in my face. Seems to me the shallow but 'fun' people who treat others like crap are the ones who get further ahead in life and have more friends.

[CANDC]

Jenni855 sorry to hear you are feeling down. I often wonder how people can be so cruel, but that seems to be the nature of some people who are not as concerned about others as you are. It seems like when I look for a better sense of self, I find that turning to spiritual solace. It isn't easy but there are so many resources to lift us up. There is a group chat on Saturday from 12-1pm EST that discusses inspiring subjects. You click on CHAT up the top under BLOGS and NEWS and then login. THen click on the Spirituality group and there will be a few people who greet you. The moderator is Hippie Bea. She is a very positive minded person.

[Fuzzybear]

[Jenni855]

Feeling like this more then ever this week. I am pointless, not worth enough.

[wolfgaze]

You keep on being 'kind & caring' Jenni.... It's good for your soul. Please don't feel discouraged just because some of the people you interact with are not appreciative or do not recognize your good nature. Others people are often dealing with their own 'issues' and insecurities as well and sometimes this causes them to overlook things (and others) that they otherwise should notice and pick up on. Your kindness and caring is appreciated by humanity as a whole and the Universe. Keep at it and eventually you are going to find others who operate on your wavelength and appreciate you for being you. : )

[avlady]

I like what wolfaze said

[Jenni855]

Thanks, I have felt so lonely this Christmas and new years. Heard from nobody I know or friends. Makes me really sad that I am so forgettable.

[wolfgaze]

Originally Posted by Jenni855

Thanks, I have felt so lonely this Christmas and new years. Heard from nobody I know or friends. Makes me really sad that I am so forgettable.

Well Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you Jenni!



For me personally, I have gradually let go of my emotional interest and investment in these holidays (well all holidays really). However I still harbor nostalgic feelings for Christmas time based on memories from my childhood and youth.

I personally do not make an effort to contact all of my family, relatives, and friends to wish them a Merry Christmas or Happy New Year.... For me it is not due to a lack of caring about them, but a loss of emotional interest in these holidays and cultural traditions. If my friends and family/relatives do not contact me, I do not interpret it as a slight or a reflection of them not caring about me. I certainly hope they do not misinterpret my behavior either. There is no ill will on my part nor ill will assumed on my end with regards to them. I can think of different reasons why a person may be inclined to be more reserved and keep to themselves during the holidays.

Jenni my advice to you is please try not to rely on these holiday traditions and cultural practices/expectations as a means for measuring your sense of self-worth in the eyes of others. It's no reliable indication of your value as a person.

Is it possible that you are not feeling very accepting of yourself at this time in your life - and this is making you more inclined to take these current circumstances personally and to interpret them in a way that attempts to validate how you have been feeling?

[hvert]

I also felt like people were just not in touch this holiday season. Maybe it's just the way the year worked out for everyone? I hope you are feeling better. Now it is a new year, a new start.

[Jenni855]

I think it is more not getting a thank you or acknowledgement of gifts. It would be nice to have got a little note. I feel like it is always me who does all the thanking and that I am just invisible and not wanted/needed a lot of the time.