[stargazer1124]

I'm so fed up with dating...I always get into a relationship it last a few months and then it;s over. I don't know if I just keep picking the same losers, but it's disheartening. I read a few threads on giving up on love and I almost feel the same way, though I think love is one of the greatest feelings, I don't see the beauty in the loss aspect I use to before.

so many break ups your heart just weakens instead of being stronger and resilient atleast in my experience.

I just don't know what to do to to keep my spirits up.

[Crazy Hitch]

You need to believe that you have a significant other out there that you haven't met yet.

Failed relationships can take its toll on us emotionally.

But they're building your strength and resilience to become a better person because of the experiences that you have been through.

[Rose3]

Perhaps your expectations during dating differ from the expectations of the people who you've been dating. For some - dating is not about loving. How to find out about others' expectations?

[stargazer1124]

well when they introduce you to all their family and friends and tell you they want a relationship you would think they want long term.

Originally Posted by Rose3

Perhaps your expectations during dating differ from the expectations of the people who you've been dating. For some - dating is not about loving. How to find out about others' expectations?

[hvert]

Originally Posted by stargazer1124

I don't know if I just keep picking the same losers, but it's disheartening.

This was true for me. I took a year off dating and started identifying patterns in my failed relationships. I made a list of warning signs and just didn't date anyone who had attributes on my red flag list. It worked out well for me, but figuring out that I had some unhealthy attractions going on was essential.

It *is* disheartening. I hope you feel better soon

[stargazer1124]

you're probably right, I crave the exciting bad boy type. The nice guys I just lose interest in and find boring...sigh

Originally Posted by hvert

figuring out that I had some unhealthy attractions going on was essential.

It *is* disheartening. I hope you feel better soon

[hvert]

That's what I did for years. There *is* a happy medium. Nice doesn't have to be boring. You can find someone exciting who also treats you well.