[Merxis]

Currently I have very little social contacts. Had a friend, I knew for many years, disappear 4 years ago. As an introvert I find it hard to make friends and feeling quite isolated. So now I have no social outlet or support. I am trying to do something about it, but in the meantime life can get quite lonely at times. I would love to have someone to talk to, about all sorts of things, or to catch up over a cup of coffee. I found that as you get older it becomes harder to make new friends. Everyone is always busy or already has their group of friends. It makes me sad at times and often wonder what is wrong with me.

[divine1966]

Hugs to you. Try meet up.com?

[Merxis]

Thank you for the hugs, I have been thinking about meetup but i also find it a bit scary. Currently very anxious about things.

You came to the right place for support and I know it's scary to step out to meet new people but as you know if you don't do anything then nothing will change .

Find a hobby you enjoy then find a group that way you at least doing something you enjoy and meet others .

Check your local town and see if there are any events happening that catch your eye .

[gayleggg]

I looked at your profile and see that you have several hobbies. Have you tried to find get togethers based on your hobbies. It would be easier to talk to people that have the same interests that you do. For instance, I to the quilt guild meetings in a neighboring town. I never lack for conversation if I want to talk and if I don't feel like talking they always have a program that is usually interesting.

In fact, my best friend and I are friends because of our love of quilting, but now we have gotten close enough to share personal trials and tribulations.

Anyway, it was just a thought of something you might want to look into.

[hvert]

I think just getting out there with low expectations helps. I try to focus on finding some fun people to spend time with from 2-4 on Tuesdays, that sort of thing. Classes have been a great way for me to make friendships that are longer lasting.

[Merxis]

Thank you all for the lovely replies. I am indeed going to visit some groups coming next week and see how that works out. I just have to take one step at a time so i do not get overwhelmed too much. I am starting with an art workshop on Monday. Fingers crossed.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by Merxis

Thank you for the hugs, I have been thinking about meetup but i also find it a bit scary. Currently very anxious about things.

It is not scary trust me just look up like movie group or walking group something casual

[Goldcrest]

Good luck Merxis. I am also quite isolated. I have a lot of friends but over the years they have all moved away. Although we are still in touch it is not like being able to meet up. The last year I have had agoraphobia so have become more isolated. I have just started to go out a bit, and if I get better at it I am going to try to start doing the same as you are.

[lilypup]

Check out my blog archives. I had a really good entry on being bipolar and making friends.